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Thursday, 14 February 2013

You As A Parent

Everything about the world is evolving, there is the awakening of a need for improvement in technology and better ways of getting by in every area of our daily lives. There is the advent of different gadgets and so many companies are coming up with different innovations to improve their turnover, and we can go on and on about the so many changes that is taking place the world over. But one change that does not tend to improve but rather decline the world over is moral values. The world is dynamic, life is not designed to be stagnant, but the beauty of the world's dynamism is when it tends to improve on the previous state of things. 
With the older generation of the world's population benefiting so much from moral values, that cannot be said of the world today. But what calls for concern the most is what the future holds for the children that are fasting growing into adults. The children today have not been given the privilege to enjoy youthfulness in so many ways. What I am perceiving is children growing from toddlers straight to adults. A teenage girl feels very comfortable to wear make-up and the parents feel it trendy to let that happens. A child living the life of early thirties at age 15, while she lives the life of her fifties in her early thirties and so by the time she is in the mid-fifties to early sixties she is getting ready to die just because her life has been fast tracked unnecessarily. And the same applies to the male gender. But the very sad aspect of all these is that the parents who are responsible for the training of these children are busy either over pampering them in the name of love or are not even training them at all. 
Money answers all things just as the Bible has rightly put it, but money does not instill moral values neither does money train. Rather the Bible has instructed the parents to train their children in the way they should go and when they grow, they will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6). From what I am discovering in the lives of many, the pursuit of money is never an excuse to neglect the training of your children. There is a place for monetary pursuit and also a place for the matters of training our children. If the pursuit of money is beginning to take dominance over the training of your child/children then it is time to start to pray. It is time to start to seek the face of God for a means to generate wealth that will not hinder your assignment from God in life to train your children in the way of the Lord. 
The training of our children begins with the training of ourselves, noting that it is impossible to give what you don't have. A man or woman who lacks self discipline will not be able to discipline a child. Even the Lord Jesus Christ says in the Bible that "we should remove the log in our eyes before attempting to remove the speck in another person's eye." Far more than the verbal instructions we give to our children, the values they pick and copy from our lives goes a long way in molding their persons and shaping their values in life. 
The second aspect of training once the first aspect has been well taken care of is the training of the children themselves. A lot of parents are beginning to tolerate indiscipline in the lives of their children all in the name of love. The children are allowed to have their way at all times and are totally been over pampered just because the parent/parents are desirous of showing love to their children, and even when these children needs to be corrected, they are either too small to be corrected or the children will cry and that will break the parent's heart. Now here what the Bible says in the case of disciplining the child; Proverbs 23:13-14 "Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death." Even the Bible speaks of the importance of discipline, it is very necessary that a parent wanting the best for his/her child needs to discipline him/her. There is the need to find a suitable means of correction for the child and apply it when necessary.
There is a big difference between discipline and child abuse. To use the rod on a child when it is required is NOT child abuse. To inflict bodily harm on a child is what is regarded as child abuse. To render a child disabled in any way is child abuse, but to cane a child when he/she is nutty and it is required is an act recommended even in the Bible. 
Another fact to note is that: effective discipline either by the rod or as any other form of punishment should be applied in love otherwise it is rendered ineffective. It is when love is lacking in discipline that we have cases of abuse. Our children are meant to be loved and disciplined all in one package. Excessive love without discipline leads to death (of moral values), and excessive discipline without love leads also to death (in emotions and even leads to physical harm). So there is a need to balance both. 
To discipline your child is a huge investment that you make in advance for your retirement, and so it is important to make that investment now that you are able to in order to enjoy the dividends when you need it the most. Children who are well trained are those who will take care of their parents when they are old. If you don't train your children well now and instill in them the right and godly values, they will not be available for you at old age.
So as you pursue money and make plans for retirement, be mindful of the fact that it is the investment you make in the lives of your children that yields the greatest dividend of all. So make the right investment now. If all parents will take their time to deposit the right values and good discipline in the lives of their children, then in the world over, there is a guarantee of a beautiful future for all.

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