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Thursday, 25 January 2018

Getting Marriage Right

Hello wonderful people, I trust you are doing great, I am doing fine too, and as always I bless the name of the Lord for your lives and mine too.
In all of my blog post I have always had to mention the need of God’s intervention in every situation of our marital lives. This is because in ourselves we are limited in capacity, there are a lot we cannot do by ourselves no matter how well we think we can and the fact that we cannot do these things never mean they can't be done, it just reveals the level of our incapability. But with God everything is possible. He is the God who knows the end of a thing from the beginning and He knows what we can do and what we should avoid doing to get the best result in situations we find ourselves.
With this understanding and conviction, I have learned to lean on God for every and all issues in my marriage and God is yet to fail or disappoint me. Yes I agree that sometimes we get impatient and want to help ourselves in the bid to help God, sometimes we think that we can take the call and handle the issue as everything does not have to be tied to God. But the end result justifies the means. What you arrive at, at the end of the whole scenario determines the effectiveness of the approach you used in reaching the destination you are in.
I have heard a lot of stories about people trusting God and getting burnt at the end of the day and I sincerely wonder how much of faith they really did put into action. God does not fail anyone and I am a living example of that. A wife who is in a troubled marriage and remains there in obedience to the word of God that God hates divorce, must also obey all the other rules for the marriage in order to make her obedience complete. She must submit to her husband, and be prayerful. What God instructs is submission to our husband and not just respect. It's important we know there is a difference between submission and respect because with God ignorance is not a good enough excuse. And then she should be confident that God will change the story of her marriage for the better once her obedience is complete. 2 Corinthians 10:6 says “And we will be ready to punish every act of disobedience, once your obedience is complete.” It’s not just Paul punishing every act of disobedience in our lives, but God Himself will punish every act of disobedience in our lives when our obedience is complete; remember God said in Deuteronomy 32:35 that it is His responsibility to avenge and He will surely repay. So act in your marriage as if God will repay you for your actions and when He has to repay you for your actions what will the consequences be? This is irrespective of what was done to you or against you.
When you have this at the back of your mind and let it guide your conduct, I can assure you that you will reap positive fruits in your marriage and joy and peace will be your lot in marriage.

Roman 4:18-20
Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed and so became the father of many nations, just as it had been said to him, “So shall your offspring be. Without weakening in his faith, he faced the fact that his body was as good as dead – since he was about a hundred years old – and that Sarah’s womb was also dead. Yet he did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God, being fully persuaded that God had the power to do what He had promised.

The ability to have faith in God is a very important aspect of the life of a Christian, and I am sure we all know that we need faith in God to run a successful marriage, and more faith in God to walk through a troubled marriage and still have the marriage standing and in full health of joy, peace and love after all said and done.
It’s very easy to talk about a mustard seed faith, but how easy is it to have a mustard seed faith in the face of grave challenges and troubled situations staring one in the face? The passage above has helped me a great deal and I pray you have something in it to hold onto and build your faith on in Jesus name.
For us to be able to have faith, we must know God and believe in Him. It will even be of great help if you are able to keep records of the good things you have enjoyed from God because that helps you to trust Him to do more.
But in the passage above we find the secret of Abraham’s faith, and that secret is found in the 21st verse and it says, being fully persuaded that God had the power to do what He had promised. So what we should notice is that Abraham had experienced God enough to be fully persuaded that God had the power to do what He had promised. He understood his situation, he accepted the fact that by himself he couldn’t get what he wanted and attain that which he longed for, so he approached God and got a covenant from God. He got a promise from God and He knew that God would not just fail on His promise, but he was confident that God had the power to fulfill that which He had promised.
I am not sure what your personal situation or marital situation is, but whatever it is, do you need a change for the better? Do you accept that by yourself you cannot attain the positive change that you desire? Then first, you need to develop a relationship with God through Jesus Christ. Your experience in God will prove to you that God has the power to do for you that which He said He will do.
If God says He hates divorce and violence in marriage, then it’s because He has something better for you in that marriage; one you cannot attain by your limited self, but that you can trust God to fulfill a promise in your marriage that only He has the power to fulfill, so learn to trust Him. In all that you have learned about marriage on this blog, please learn a little also about faith in marriage; it will help you go a long way.  
In my next post, I think I should share a story I came across about a troubled marriage, and then for the post after that I think I should gist a little about sex in marriage. Some interesting things coming up on the blog so don't be far from a here. 

Saturday, 20 January 2018

Tiny Things to Know About Marriage

Hello people, it’s another wonderful opportunity to learn a little from the throne of God about something useful that can help our marriages move from where it is now to where God has destined it to be, being mindful of the fact that our marriages are designed and destined by God to be a promised land for us who are in it; a land flowing with milk and honey, a place of comfort and rest and an abode of joy and happiness.
Some marriages are already enjoying a glimpse of this promised land, while some still have their marriages as a valley of shadow of death in which they are making effort to endure rather than enjoy. But all that is needed to get to where we want to be is as simple as following God’s instructions for our marriages to the tiniest detail and then letting God rearrange what He alone can rearrange in our marriages.
But sincerely there are so many trivial issues that the devil is using as opportunities to steal away joy and laughter from many homes. And when we are not on our guard the devil uses these trivial issues to gain foothold where it should not until he destroys completely the joy of the marriage and in a lot of cases not just the joy but the marriage itself. In my post today I want us to look at one or two of these trivial issues as examples and then we can look at our own marriages in view of this and be on our guard.
I will use my own marriage as the first example, and here is the story. I share the same tablet of bathing soap with my husband, and my husband is a very meticulous personality, quite detailed in his view of things. Personally I take my bath with the soap in the bathroom and when I am done I clean the bathroom area where I must have splashed foams of soap while bathing and then leave. But my husband is so particular that I wash the tablet of soap after every bath. He had complained about this once or twice and when I realized it was becoming an issue, I made it a point to always remember to wash even the soap when I am done bathing. I would not allow the devil use this very simple thing to steal my joy away. Things as simple as this has been the foundation of some broken marriages.
I also heard of the story of a wife who cannot stand her husband eating in their bedroom and the husband on his part finds it hard sitting on the dining table to eat his meals. He would rather eat his meal in bed while watching a movie. This is an attribute of the husband that freaks the wife out so badly. It so gets on the nerves of the wife that her husband would rather eat on their matrimonial bed than on the dining table. It was an issue that she had been trying to correct without success. This simple issue had been eating into her peace and making her grouchy as a wife. It had affected her effectiveness as a wife. And after a while she decided to damage the television power outlet and pretended she didn’t know how it happened. This invariably forced the husband to resort to eating on the dining table since the T.V he loved to watch while eating wasn’t working any longer. At least there would be a form of peace for the wife till the television power outlet get repaired.
Interestingly my husband loves to eat in bed too and I sincerely don’t see anything wrong in it, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good or bad habit or that another wife has no right to detest the habit, it just simply means that every day we have very trivial issues affecting our marriages and we need to be on our guard. Sometimes simple sacrifices will do to solve the problem, but sometimes we need to look a little deeper.

Ephesians 6:12-13
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armour of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after everything, to stand. Stand firm then.  

2 Corinthians 10:3-5
For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

It’s important that we are mindful of the fact that our marriages are battlefields, and when I mean battlefields, I do not mean battlefield for a husband and his wife to destroy themselves, neither is the battle in question between the husband and his wife, but between the marriage unit (which consist of husband and wife) and the devil. The devil is not interested in the success of any marriage because unity in marriage is a vital key to success in the individual lives of those in the marriage. When there is unity in the marriage, impossibility is eradicated and success is sure.
And so the devil brings up these seemingly trivial issues in marriages just to destabilize the marriage and introduce chaos in that marriage unit. Once he is successful in this, he is not just destabilizing the marriage, he is destabilizing every other area of the individual lives of the married couples and thereby introducing into their lives all sorts of negativity that will prevent them from reaching the full potential of their destiny and attaining and possessing all that God has laid in store for them.
When you allow trivial issues to take a foothold in your marriage then you have given the devil a head start to have a free playing field in your marriage. The Bible says we are not ignorant of the devices of the devil.
Handle these trivial issues as soon as they rear their ugly heads before they take a foothold in your marriage. If you need to give up your stand just to let peace reign then it is worth the sacrifice. Paul said in the passage above that “we demolish arguments and pretentions that sets itself against the knowledge of God and take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5). When things that could cause contention and strife in your marriage is stared up, nip it in the bud, swallow your pride and work for peace, and above all pray. Arrest any thought within you that would not work for the good of your marriage. Never let those thought have a resting place in your heart.
The trick of the devil is to make you feel that your spouse is your enemy, but as Christians we should know better. Paul said that our struggle is not against flesh and blood but against rulers, authorities, power of this dark world and against spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Your spouse is not in the heavenly realm, he/she has flesh and blood just like you and so the fight is not against him/her. The real enemy are what Paul has highlighted for us in the passages above.
Just like you are in the battlefield fighting, so is your spouse. You will both do yourself a lot of good when you join forces together to fight your common enemy which is the devil. Your husband or wife might not be acting right, but they are not the problem, they are just what the devil wants you to see as the problem, the victory lies in you looking beyond your spouse to fight the real enemy of your joy which is the devil and whatever force is behind your husband or wife's inappropriate actions and attitudes. And good enough the weapons you fight with are not weapons of this world. They are weapons with power to pull down every stronghold.
Trivial issues, as trivial as they may seem have destroyed many marriages, its time to wake up from your slumber and destroy that which is aimed at destroying you. Hold unto God and enjoy peace in your marriage. I pray you remain blessed.

Friday, 12 January 2018

The Travails of a Betrayed Spouse

It’s another beautiful opportunity to have something to share with you on this blog. Sometimes when I feel tired and the nudge to give up the blog, I get a push from one or two comments I see of people wanting to read more and learn more from this blog. I pray that the Lord will always have something to share through me to you in Jesus name.
I was with some wives a couple of days ago and we were about fives wives seated together and in no time we found ourselves discussing marriage. We shared views and learned from each other things we could do to improve the status of our marriages. Among the five of us seated there, none was less than ten years in marriage so you can guess that we all had our fear share of experience in marriage with stories to tell about our marriages.
But one of us had a bitter taste in her mouth about marriage, she has resolved in her heart that all husbands are cheats and cannot be trusted. And in her opinion, there is nothing a wife can do about it. No matter how a wife tries to improve herself in her marriage, her husband would still cheat on her if he wills. I am so very sure that a lot of women share in this school of thought, but it’s all so faulty. I do agree that a handful of men have grossly betrayed the trust their wives bestowed on them but I am also convinced that a handful of faithful husbands still exist.
Its understandable that a woman whose trust has been betrayed would come to a conclusion such as this, but the same goes for the man whose trust has been betrayed by his wife. He would easily come to the conclusion that women can never be trusted and all women are cheats. So there is the need to look at this matter and try to get a better understanding in dealing with the issue of trust in marriage.
I have written about trust in marriage several times on this blog, but it’s just important that I keep writing about it until we have a very clear and matured understanding of this issue.
The man or woman you are married to is human, and that means such a person is liable to fall and fail at any time. Even the man or woman with very high moral upstanding is susceptible to fall if he is not keeping rein on himself/herself and being very watchful and on his/her guard against any and every form of temptation and deception. Most extra-marital affairs begin with simple friendship of when a man and a woman who are not married to each other begins to enjoy each other’s company more than that of their spouses; and then they begin to share problems together and then help each other solve problems, then there are chances this bond outgrows it bound. Its always start as a harmless simple friendship and neither would know when the so-called simple friendship spirals into an uncontrollable attraction unless they make conscious effort to set a limit. 
The man in this friendship would tell you he is still very much in love with his wife but he is not sure what took over him and the same goes for the woman who finds herself in this situation. They will tell you with all honesty that they love their spouses so very much and would not want to hurt the feelings of their spouses but are still not ready to let go off the friendship that has posed a problem to their marriage.
As a wife married to a man who has found himself in this position, it’s not that you have done anything wrong or that you are not good enough. It was never your fault your husband walked his way into the devil’s trap, and truth be told, it’s also not that your husband doesn’t love you or does not want to love you. But when you find yourself in this position it is also not the end of the world nor the end of your marriage. It’s just time to let God do for you and in your marriage what you cannot do for yourself. This is the time to pray and commit the situation into God’s hands.
I agree that it hurts so bad when the one you have trusted with your life betrays that trust whether intentionally or not, but it’s also in order that you forgive and work towards the healing of your marriage than to keep reminiscing on the wrong done against you. The fact that you have been betrayed does not mean that everyone is evil. We all have wounds and we nurse it with the hope that it heals, and the emotional wound inflicted on you by the betrayal of a spouse should also be allowed to heal without leaving a scare on your life or marriage. 
In as much as I encourage trust in marriage which is a key component of a successful marriage, but I will say that there is a very healthy way to trust. When you learn to trust the healthy way you will seldom get disappointed to the point of being betrayed. This kind of healthy trust works well for every kind of relationship you find yourself in and marriages inclusive.
Jeremiah 17:5-10 talks about this healthy trust. When you trust healthy, you trust God rather than man, and even when a human is involved like it should be in every relationship, you trust that human through God. When you learn to trust this way you won’t be disappointed or feel betrayed. If every one else fails, God never fails. He will not disappoint your trust in Him, neither will He allow your trust in Him be betrayed. 
In case you are wondering how it is possible to trust a man through God or trust a woman through God, this is the way it happens: first you must believe in God, then you must have a trusting relationship with God. If you are one who believes in God and you believe that God hears and answers prayers and if everyone else fails God never fails, then you are on the right track of healthy trust.
The next thing to do is to pray. When you want to trust your spouse or anyone else you need to trust, you will commit that your spouse or who ever you need to trust into God’s hands and ask the Lord to lead his/her life such that they will only do those things that will make you trust them. If you believe God answers your prayers, then you should believe that God will answer this prayer too and there is no point acting in doubt or continue to be suspicious. Just believe that God’s eyes will be on your spouse and by the grace of God he/she will not make a mistake. Not because by themselves they cannot make mistakes, but because committing them into the hands of God, God will not let them make mistakes. You know the heart of Kings are in the hands of God and like a water course, He directs them as He pleases (Proverbs 21:1). When you do this you can be at peace in your marriage and rest assured that trust in your marriage will not be compromised because it’s a trust built on God’s faithfulness.
This has worked for my marriage and I am so very convinced it will work for yours too. Even when your spouse has betrayed your trust countless times this kind of healthy trust still works wonders and your marriage can be at peace because what you cannot do by yourself, God can, and will do for you.

Monday, 8 January 2018

Raising Godly Offspring : Manoah's Story

I thank God for another opportunity to drop a small piece for you on this blog, and I pray that what you read here blesses you and makes a great impact in your life to the glory of God.
In my last post I started to write about the product of our marriages and one of such important product is the offspring that we have been able to produce for God from our marriage union. God said in Malachi 2:15 that He made the man and his wife one in flesh and spirit because he was seeking godly offspring from their union, and so if we will be diligent to fulfill this one of our marital assignments to God then we need to take the parenting assignment on our marriages a little more seriously.
We looked at the father in Job in the last post I shared, and learned a few lessons that should help us understand the scope of our assignment as parents, and in today’s post, we will learn a little more from another parent figure in the Bible.
Judges 13, tells us the story of the birth of Samson and there are so many lessons to learn from this story and I pray the Holy Spirit will open the mind of God to us and reveal to us the deep truth and lessons of this passage.

Judges 13:2-5
A certain man of Zorah, named Manoah, from the clan of the Danites, had a wife who was sterile and remained childless. The angel of the Lord appeared to her and said, “You are sterile and childless, but you are going to conceive and have a son. Now see to it that you drink no wine or other fermented drink and that you do not eat anything unclean, because you will conceive and give birth to a son. No razor may be used on his head, because the boy is to be a Nazarite, set apart to God from birth, and he will begin the deliverance of Israel from the hands of the Philistine.”

This might appear as just an ordinary story but the first extraordinary lesson in the story is the role Samson’s mother played in the realization of her son’s destiny. The Bible said the angel of the Lord appeared to Manoah’s wife who was sterile and childless and gave her the good news of her childbirth, but the angel didn’t stop at that. If that was all there was to it, it would have been easy. But she had a role to play in the whole matter. She was to consecrate her own life for the sake of the child in her womb. She was to abstain from things that could alter or affect the destiny of her unborn child.
In the same manner as parents we owe God the duty to consecrate our lives for the sake of our children. Do you desire a child set apart for God, then begin by consecrating your own life for the sake of your child/children. Set apart your life that your children might have an ideal role model in you. Set apart your life that you might have the moral justification to right the wrongs in the lives of your children. You will agree with me that it’s easier to lead your children by example than to direct them in one path and then you follow another.

Deuteronomy 7:9
Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping His covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love Him and keep His commands.

Number 14:18
The Lord is slow to anger, abounding in love and forgiving sin and rebellion. Yet He does not leave the guilty unpunished; He punishes the children for the sin of the father to the third and fourth generation.

In the passages above we find the relationship between the consecration of the parents and the destinies of their children. Good or bad what you do affects your children’s lives either negatively or positively depending on the course of your own action.
Manoah’s wife had to consecrate herself because of the destiny and assignment of her son. She had to stay away from those things that could contaminate the destiny of the child she was to carry. It’s not just Manoah’s wife that has to do this for her child, we all have to because under our care are the generals of the Lord. The army of the living God assigned to bring down the Kingdom of God here on earth as it is in heaven. By consecrating our lives, I do not mean abstaining from food and drinks, but abstaining from actions and deeds that will not glorify God in your life or that of your children. 
God says He is seeking godly offspring from our marriage union, and one of the ways we can make this happen is by living exemplary lives that will bestow on our children the love of God to a thousand generations after us. As long as the Lord still seeks godly offspring from our marriage union, then our children are Nazarites to the Lord, just like Samson was a Nazarite to God. Our children are the army the Lord seeks to bring His Kingdom down to earth as it is in heaven, just as Samson was destined to bring about the deliverance of Israel from the hands of the Philistines.
And just before I round up this post, I would want us to consider the role played by Manoah who was Samson’s father in the whole consecration issue.

Judges 13:8
Then Manoah prayed to the Lord; “O Lord, I beg you, let the man of God you sent to us come again to teach us how to bring up the boy who is to be born.”

So we see that the consecration was not just about Samson’s mother, but his father had to pray for the Lord to teach them how to bring up the special son to be born. Are fathers still praying that the Lord  would teach them how to raise the army of the Lord or they are adopting their inadequate understanding on this matter? Manoah prayed and so should all fathers. Manoah sought clarity from the Lord and so should all fathers. So to be able to please God in this assignment, you need the help of God to lead you and see you through to success. If you have not been praying now is the time to start.
So we have learned that in order to succeed in producing for God the godly offspring that He seeks from our union we need to consecrate ourselves for the sake of the destiny of our children and we need to pray that the Lord teaches us how to train our children such that their lives pleases the Lord and they fulfill their destinies. In doing this we will succeed well. And so till I come your way again. I pray that you remain blessed. To learn more on raising godly offspring for the Lord, you can get my book "Because the Lord Seeks Godly Offspring." It available on My Book Store through this link

Thursday, 4 January 2018

The Products of Your Marriage

Hello lovely people, I am so grateful to God that we made it to another new year. I am using this opportunity to wish you all a gloriously blessed year in Jesus name.
I want us to start this new year looking at the products of our marriage, I have often mentioned that what we sow into our marriages multiples as yields for us. You can’t expect to get the best out of your marital life if you haven’t given your best into your marriage. If your marriage isn’t giving you what you want, then check out the value of what you are investing into it. And not just the value of what you invest, but that you make your investment with the leading of the Holy Spirit being mindful of the fact that marriage is not a one-size-fits-all institution. What goes for husband A might not pass well with husband B and what wife A can tolerate and cope with might be an outright irritation to wife B so in marriage you need to stay on your lane and focus on God.
But one product of marriage that is of great significance to you and the society at large is the offspring that your marriage produces. The children the Lord has blessed you with. Malachi 2:15 tells us that God made the man and his wife one in flesh and spirit because He was seeking godly offspring from their union. So to say that you owe God the responsibility of your marriage producing for God the godly offspring that He seeks.
I am not an expert in parental counseling and I only have teenagers myself and still on the learning curve like a lot of people that will be reading this, but one thing that I believe to be true both in Bible days and our present day generation is that your children and how you raise and train them have great impact on your destinies as parents. We have read of Prophet Eli in the book of 1 Samuel 1-3 and how his children through lack of discipline destroyed all that Eli had worked for as a priest before the Lord. And we also read in 2 Samuel 11-18 of how the small sin of David’s adultery destroyed the lives of his children. So we see that our actions and inactions as parents affects the lives of our children in no small measure as their lives affects ours as parents too. And then consider the fact that the more godly children we produce from our marriage who in turn fill up the society, the better the society we will have. As parents we have a very big role to play in the growth and development of our society through the growth and development of the offspring produced from our individual marriages.
Like I mentioned earlier, I am not vast in parenting issues as I am just learning myself, but would like for us to learn together and trust the Holy Spirit to open up the mind of God to us on this issue; it’s time to take our parenting responsibilities a little more seriously.

In the land of Uz there lived a man whose name was Job. This man was blameless and upright; he feared God and shunned evil. He had seven sons and three daughters and he owned seven thousand sheep, three thousand camels, five hundred yoke of oxen and five hundred donkeys and had a large number of servants. He was the greatest among all the people of the East.
His sons used to take turns holding feasts in their homes, and they would invite their three sisters to eat and drink with them. When a period of feasting had run its course, Job would send and have them purified. Early in the morning he would sacrifice a burnt offering for each of them, thinking, “Perhaps my children have sinned and cursed God in their hearts.” This was Job’s regular custom.  

There are quite a handful of parenting stories to glean from in the Bible, a lot of them I wrote about in my book “Because the Lord Seeks Godly Offspring,” but the one that we will learn from in this post, is the parenting qualities of the man named Job.
The first few verses of the book of Job tells us so much about who job is, but one important lesson that I am taking away from these few verses and would also want you to learn from is Job’s qualities as a father. The Bible tells us that Job was a very rich man, he was so rich in wealth that he was the greatest man in the East at his time. You will agree with me that with such wealth also comes affluence and fame. So it will not be wrong to deduce that Job was rich and famous. Another thing that should be noticed about Job is that he was a man who feared God and shunned evil and so we can also deduce that Job took the things of God very seriously. We can conclude that Job was a man who wouldn’t miss church activities nor neglect the work of God. He must have been deeply involved in counseling and evangelism if such existed in his time. All these as a result of his love for God.
But all of these didn’t deter him from raising godly offspring. All his wealth and fame didn’t prevent him from purifying his children after every festive period. It didn’t disturb him from sacrificing to God on behalf of his children per-adventure they sinned against God in their hearts. It wasn’t just the open sins of his children that bothered Job, but the hidden sins of the heart of his children were also a concern for him.
We should also note that Job as a godly man was a lover of God and the things of God; so his pursuit of God and the things of God did not make him forget his responsibilities as a father. He was not too busy with church activities that he forgot to purify his children on a regular basis. He wasn’t too busy with business and work related meetings that he forgot to sacrifice to God on behalf of his children, and the Bible tells us that this was Job’s regular custom.
Do we now think it was wrong for God to make a boastful declaration concerning the life of Job to satan saying there was none like him on the face of the earth (Job 1:8, Job 2:3). Job was a true righteous man who didn’t fail God in any area of his life including his responsibilities as a father.
I want to learn from the life of Job and I pray that we all learn too, and the lesson therein is that we don’t have any excuse to fail God in producing for Him the godly offspring that He seeks from our marriage union. If Job as the greatest man among the men of the East in his time did not fail God despite his riches and affluence, then we don’t have an excuse. And if Job the righteous man did not fail God in his responsibilities as a father despite his pursuits of righteousness and his work for God, then we don’t have an excuse.
Eli the prophet failed God as a father and God did not spare him because he was a priest, so your pursuit of righteousness is not good enough a reason not to raise your children in the way of the Lord. As a parent I agree it’s tough combining all roles but with God’s help we are not designed to fail.
I pray you have been blessed by this piece, and I pray the Lord will help us dig a bit deeper on parenting as a product of our marriages and I pray the Holy Spirit will lead us in Jesus name. Remain blessed in Jesus name.