Making Money or Building a Home, What Will it Be?

One of my personal truths is that on judgment day, God will not ask me why I was not rich or wealthy, but He will require an account from me on the assignment of being a wife and a mother that He has assigned to me. This truth has not placed me in the position of a mediocre person; I am not lazy; I love to learn, and continuous development has always been my focus, which I am not deviating from or relenting about. As a stay-at-home mum, I have invested heavily in my career development, such that it almost feels like too much. But one truth about me is that I am prayerfully sowing seeds of development in my own life so that when the Lord finally serves me my opportunity, I will be more than ready.

But one of my biggest prayers is that I do not want the pursuit of money to make me fail as a wife or a mother. Proverbs 14:1 tells us that a wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears hers down with her hands. Building the home is an assignment for the wife, and it is not out of place for a virtuous woman to build wealth. But in all that God has assigned to us and also blessed us with, there is a need for balance. Wealth is a very necessary additive in any man’s life. Solomon, in Ecclesiastes 10:19, speaks of the importance of wealth when he says, “A feast is made for laughter; wine makes life merry, and money is the answer for everything.” But we often focus on the pursuit of money at the detriment of our God-given assignment, which is to build the home.

What I am trusting God to do in this little piece is to be able to help us (including me) align our focus in the right direction and reorganize our priorities as we launch into 2025. Deuteronomy 8:17-18 says something really profound. Let me put that scripture in my own words; we can think and assume that it is our hands and efforts and 500IQ that have produced the wealth we have for us, but that would be the biggest illusion that we would be living in because it is God who gives us the ability to produce wealth. Without Him, we will just be chasing after the wind.

If God, who gives you the ability to make wealth, then gives you an assignment to do and you decide that you will abandon the assignment to pursue wealth, forgetting that the thing which you pursue, He will obviously provide as part of the necessary things He knows you need to fulfill that assignment, what does that make you? Jesus teaches us in Matthew 6:33 that we should seek first the Kingdom of God and its righteousness, and all other things will be added unto us. The assignment of building a home, nurturing the home, being the wife God called you to be, being the mother He created you for, building wisdom, amassing knowledge, and pursuing understanding are the things you should pursue first. Let God deal with the accumulation of wealth for you. The strategy to make wealth while fulfilling your God-given assignment resides with God, and He will hand you that strategy and support it with implementation once you deep yourself into doing what pleases Him.

When I think of the pursuit of wealth, I am quick to remember the story of Peter and Jesus in Luke 5:1-11. Peter had used all of his 1000IQ to catch fish that fateful night, but the fish just refused to be caught 😜. Frustrated, he had resigned to fate and retired for the night when Jesus borrowed his boat to sit in; afterward, he asked them to launch into the deep again for a catch. Mr. Peter, though, was frustrated, did not hesitate. He didn’t forget to point out that he had tried all night but caught nothing. The beautiful thing was that he was willing to obey, and he caught fish that he had never caught in his entire fishing life, obeying Jesus and going for another try. This happened just after Jesus borrowed his boat to sit in. The strategy to make wealth is in the hands of God; pursuing wealth while abandoning your God-given assignment is like telling God He doesn’t matter while He is the One who matters the most. Psalm 37:4 tells us to delight ourselves in the Lord, and He shall give us the desires of our hearts. This is not just about praying and fasting and praising. All those are perfect and required, but doing what pleases God is important because prayers without deeds are dead.  

This is not to say that a wife is to abandon her dreams because she is a wife and a mother. It is about fitting and incorporating those dreams into God’s purpose for your life. There are times when what you seek is not what God has in store for you; at this point, you need to pray that the Lord will show you your path to success without jeopardizing His assignment for your life. When it is God leading you, you cannot go wrong. He created you and put gifts and talents in you, designed to make you great. If you don’t know what those gifts and talents are, seek God, and He will show you and help you soar with it.  

In conclusion, I will say that your dreams are valid and need expression, and pursuing the fulfillment of your dreams is also very valid. But that pursuit should never be at the detriment of your assignment from God. If there is a conflict between pursuing your dreams and your God-given assignment, you must pause and pray. Let God, who is the master strategist, lead you in a way that will lead you to fulfill both without falling short on any. Jesus teaches us that with God, all things are possible. 

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