In the midst of too many things
to do, I have been struggling with keeping pace with the marriage blog. But
just two days ago I discovered tons of comments on the blog that was awaiting
moderation. And to the glory of God and to my heart’s delight I read so many of
them and praise God that people are been blessed by the content of this blog. I
will try to add the checking comments for moderation as part of my routine, may God
help me to be consistent in it.
In the past couple of posts, we
have been looking at the marriage of Abraham and Sarah and personally, I have
learned a lot from Abraham’s wife Sarah. And so, we will move to the next
couple of interest which is Isaac and Rebekah, but before we do that, we will
try to summarize all that we have learned from the marriage of Abraham and Sarah.
The first thing to understand
about that couple is that Sarah single-handedly built her marriage without the
support of her husband. Marriage is not a 50-50 contribution quota. It is a
100-100 contribution quota; by simple arithmetic, when you add 50 to 50, you
arrive and a 100, but when you add a 100 to another 100 you arrive at 200 which
is twice as much as what you get when you only give half of you into the
process. Irrespective of Abraham’s shortfall, Sarah didn’t allow that prevent
her from giving her all into her marriage and as such God will not allow her to go
into her grave without reaping of the harvest of all that she had sown into the
marriage. Because God is faithful, if you are not yet reaping the desired
harvest from your marriage whether you are the husband or wife, its important
that you check the quality of your seed.
Another lesson that I learned
from that marriage is that Abraham being a friend of God didn’t translate to
Abraham being a good husband. His desire for an heir totally blinded him from
his responsibilities as a good husband. And so that man being a pastor and
being passionate about the things of God does not automatically make him a good
husband. As a wife to a pastor or non-pastor, you need to always be in the place
of prayer for the leading of God on how to manage your marriage well. Relying
alone on the fact that your husband is a man of God who truly fears God and as
such would be an excellent husband is dancing on self-deceit. Always trust God
to perfect all that concerns your marriage.
Another lesson that I took away
from this is the fact that just because your spouse is failing in his/her
responsibility to you as a wife or a husband doesn’t mean you should fail in
your responsibilities as a wife or a husband also. Two wrongs never make a right. We will all
give an account to God and you can’t tell God that because your husband or wife
failed then you failed also.
I very understand the fact that
its really a good feeling when you show love and respect to your spouse and
you get love and respect back in return. Its not just a really good feeling,
but it’s a booster to your will to commit yourself more into the marriage. It encourages
one to give more as you know that you are a priority to your spouse. But the
work of building a successful marriage is not hinged on emotions alone. The
bedrock of a successful marriage lies in divine wisdom, the wisdom that comes
from God alone.
When you give so much in your
marriage and it seems there is nothing to show for it, that is not the time to
stop giving your best, understand that seeds take time to grow. And the seed
that is not well nurtured will die a seed and never germinate. So, you keep
sowing and keep praying.
Sarah laughed last, and that
husband Abraham must have loved and respected his wife dearly after God
finished vindicating her. The Bible said he wept and mourned Sarah for days
after her death and then bought a special burial place for her. The seed of
Sarah, Isaac, was the only child God reckoned as Abraham’s son.
Sometimes it can be tough to be
caught in the position in which Sarah was and still maintain one's cool and
trust in God,
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