The book of Esther is a book of many parts and many lessons to glean from. But it is my favorite book when I want to talk about the beauty of a queen. As a wife, you are a queen in your husband’s kingdom and never think of yourself as any less.
The book of Esther tells us the story of how King Ahasuerus
showed off his dynasty to the powers of Media and Persia and the nobles and princes
of the provinces within his jurisdiction. So, when the heart of the king was
merry, he decided to show off his crown jewel, his queen. So, he ordered that
his beautiful queen Vashti be brought wearing her royal crown to show off her
beauty because she was lovely to behold.
The interesting thing about this story is that God did not
condemn the action of this king. So, it wasn’t that the demand was categorized
as evil. The king, who is proud of his beautiful queen, wanted to show her off
to the world. All men, like King Ahasuerus, would love to display their lovely
wives and queens to the world, and that is the purpose of today’s blog.
As a wife, I want you to know one thing today, and that is, your
husband is and should be proud of you, and he would love to show you off to the
world if you let him. It is not wrong for him to want to do that. And as a
wife, you should feel some level of self-pride (I mean this as a confident
builder and not the negative form of pride) if your husband is willing to show
you off. This simply tells you that you have something valuable to him about
you that is worth showing to the world.
The second chapter of the book of Esther details the 12
months of preparation that the young virgins had to be put through before being
presented before the king to take a pick in replacement of Queen Vashti, whom
he had banished.
It is important to note that these young virgins were
initially beautiful because they would have been among the most attractive picks
from the provinces of the kingdom. Yet, they still had to go through a 12-month
beauty regimen. Why would this detailed beauty practice be included in the
Bible?
While some may consider this as just storytelling, I see a
lesson for women in this chapter, and that is the importance of taking care of
your physical body and your appearance. Even the most beautiful woman would
require some level of upkeep to retain that beauty. And spending time and
resources on taking care of your beauty modestly and naturally is very
important for a woman.
The virgins were groomed with oils and perfumes to enhance their
already beautiful body to make them appealing to the king, and the Bible didn’t
call that a sin. So, we should understand that taking extra care of your body
in a natural and modest manner is a good thing. The Lord has given you the
beauty, but it is your responsibility to ensure that the beauty is kept and
retained.
A beauty that is not well taken care of is a beauty that
fades. So, it is possible to be regarded as once beautiful but no longer
beautiful because the beauty has faded. That is a beauty that was not well
taken care of. Deliberate actions are not taken to maintain and retain such
beauty.
What about after getting married? Do you need to expend as
much resources and time in maintaining your beauty as you did before marrying,
since you have nothing to prove anymore? This is a perilous assumption to make.
You need to retain your personal beauty in equal strength, if not more, after
getting married. There will be shifts in your life after getting married, but
never allow a change in the way you take care of yourself after you get
married.
I started this blog post with King Ahasuerus wanting to show
off his lovely queen to the princes and nobles of the provinces under his
reign. If Queen Vashti had stopped taking care of herself or maintaining her
beautiful appearance, would the king want to show her off? The reason the king
was so proud to show off his queen was that she never stopped being beautiful. Even
after she became a queen, she did not relent in retaining her physical beauty.
In Genesis 12:10-11, Abraham, upon entering the land of
Egypt, told his wife, Sarah, to lie about being his wife, but to claim that she
was his sister, because she was beautiful. She was so beautiful that words
reached the king of Egypt about her beauty, and he took her as his wife.
Let’s remember that Sarah was not young; she was not just
beautiful because God made her beautiful. But she was so beautiful even in old
age because she took very good care of her physical appearance and beauty. She
made a conscious effort to retain her God given beauty. She took care of
herself so well that even after 80 years of age, King Abimelech took her as his
wife when in fear, Abraham repeated the mistake me made in Egypt.
The same goes for the story of Rebecca, the wife of Isaac.
Rebecca must have inherited the beauty regimen of her mother-in-law, as she was
not just beautiful by the making of God, but by her effort in retaining the
gift of beauty given to her by God. Just as the case of Sarah in Genesis 20,
King Abimelech also took Rebecca as his wife when Isaac, for reasons of fear, lied
that she was his sister, following the path of his father Abraham.
As a wife, you are the queen in your husband’s life. Your
duty is not limited to taking care of your household or being a suitable helper
to your husband, but you owe yourself and your husband the duty of taking care
of your God given beauty. As your husband’s queen, you should be a woman of
value who is an embodiment of God’s favor in the life of your husband, but you
should also be a piece of beauty that your husband is proud to show off to the
world.
A wife should take very good care of her physical
appearance, her beauty, her health, as well as ensuring that she remains a
suitable helper to her husband. In ensuring that a wife maintains her outward
beauty, she needs to ensure that she maintains her inner beauty. Her inner beauty
of submission, compassion, hard work, diligence, prayerfulness, and discernment
are beautiful traits a wife needs to have and also retain.
Even though I have said so much about maintaining the
physical appearance of a queen, this must be done in moderation and modesty. These
efforts of retaining beauty are to be done within the confines of what makes your
husband comfortable. This is not for another man, but for your husband. It is
to keep the physical attraction in the marriage alive always.
When your husband is uncomfortable with the way you look or
dress, it is essential to address his concerns and make a change in whatever
efforts you are making with regard to your outward beauty. In marriage, there
needs to be a balance, while not neglecting your inner beauty, your outward
beauty is essential to look after.
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