It's Different with Humans

Hello great and beautiful people, I trust we are all fine. May the joy of the Lord be our strength always in Jesus name.

Like I promised in my last post, we will continue with lessons from that Bible scripture where God originated the marriage institution. I have learned a lot from it and I am sure it will bless you greatly too if God gives you a divine revelation of this scripture.  

Genesis 2:18-25

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.

Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called each living creature that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman’ for she was taken out of man.”

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

The man and his wife were both naked and they felt no shame.  

In the record in Genesis 1 where God created all the living creatures; the birds of the air, the fish of the sea, and the beast of the ground, He created them in twos, male and female God created them all. And so, we can appreciate why a male dog can mate with any female dog that comes its way. There is no marriage in the animal kingdom, God didn’t make it so at the beginning.

But when it came to the human species it was different. God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep and took a piece of bone from the man with which He made a woman. And so, the man is not like animals that can pick any woman on the street to reproduce with. And this is one of the reasons why God hates divorce. Marriage is not about pick and drop, only animals are created to do that. For every man God created, there is a woman God has also made for him with the bone He took out of that particular man. And so, there is a woman for every man no matter how we look at it and there is no imbalance with the agenda of God no matter how we try to look at the statistics. And your wife is the only one that fits, no matter what your marriage looks like at the moment and no matter your perception of the situation you find yourself in. 

A married man and a man intending to marry should understand and appreciate that your wife is not a separate entity from you. She was taken out of you, she is a piece of you in another body form and when you see her, it is important that you see yourself in her. This revelation goes in line with God’s instruction for the husbands which says, “A man should love his wife as Christ Loves the Church,” and then says "he who loves his wife loves himself." When God gave this instruction through Paul in Ephesians 5:25-31 and Colossians 3:19, it was because God who made the man and the woman, knew that He made the woman out of the man and so it is important that a man should care for his wife as himself because truly and surely, she is a fraction of the man in another body form.

The animals have male and female that are totally different entities and independent of each other. But with humans, it is not so. What God does in marriage is to bring the woman He created to the man He created her from and unite the two as one. A lot of times we assume we made a mistake in marriage just because the union isn’t going the way we expected. But if only we can return to the source and seek help from God on how to run the union to succeed. What is missing in the husband is what the wife is carrying in her. The deep revelation of this truth gives marriage a whole new meaning and your approach to marriage after this divine understanding should change. The purpose of the marriage union is to build each other up to perfection.  This requires great understanding and wisdom.

The flawed perception we have had about marriage is that we are in the marriage to receive from whoever we are married to, but in as much as this is correct, we are in that marriage union to give more than to receive. What we invest in our marriage is what we will harvest from it. And the quality and quantity of our seed greatly determine the quality and quantity of our harvest.

A lot of women give so much love into their marriage to the point that it begins to become a problem. There is nothing wrong with a wife loving her husband, but have you thought of the fact that you might be sowing the wrong seed in your marriage? The seed that God requires that a woman sows into her marriage is the seed of submission, and submission means obedience. The love you have for your husband is supposed to drive you to sow the right seed in your marriage which is the seed of submission and prayers. Love from a wife to her husband that does not translate into submission and prayers for the success of your marriage might not yield the right harvest. When sowing your seed of submission then you need to water that seed with prayers. Your fertilizer to the labor is divine wisdom. All these put together will secure for you a beautiful marriage.

But for the man what will guarantee for you the beautiful marriage that you desire is nothing else but unconditional love and prayers. The seed that secures good harvest is the seed of unconditional, deep and intentional love. That which makes you put your wife above yourself in all that you do. Then you water that seed with prayer and cover it up with wisdom. With these done, you can't harvest anything less than peace, joy, faithfulness, loyalty, and love from your wife and marriage.

I once spoke to a man whose wife says he was always beating her. When I asked the man why he would even think of hitting his wife, he began a long story of how his wife had been unfaithful to him and the marriage, to the point that he followed her out one day in disguise and found her on the lap of another man. He then unveiled himself to her and the man she was with and the wife ran. After that incident, he had assumed she would stop being promiscuous and stop sleeping around randomly, but that was a tall dream. He complained that they will be home together sometimes and discussing as normal couples should be doing and the wife would just excuse herself and will not return home till way past midnight with no explanation of where she had been to. Sometimes she would go out as though she would be back in a couple of hours but would not return until days later. He said he used to beat her thinking she would change from her dirty habits.

I told him that his intentions might be good, but his approach was totally wrong. Rather than for the beatings to correct his wife, it will drive her farther away from him. You don’t discipline an adult in the way and manner you discipline a child. Husbands do wrong too, and we wives don’t even have the strength or power to flog sense into their brains and so husbands should not think that beating their wives will bring about the changes they desire in them.

I told this man who had as a matter of fact given up on his wife and walked out of the marriage that love and loads of love were the only remedies to that problem his wife has. The love he has for her should then move him to pray for her. He should keep disturbing God on behalf of his wife till God remembers his tears and bring about the change in the life of his wife that he desires. There is no curse known to man that the Blood of Jesus is not potent enough to kill and destroy. And so, he should start to put to use the power in the Name and Blood of Jesus till he sees the change he seeks and desires in his wife.

To say that your marriage is a mistake is to say that God makes mistakes. But the Bible says let every man be a liar and let God be true. God never makes mistakes, you are the mistake in that marriage. When you change your perception and you use a different approach, you will get better results. Just seek the leading of the Holy Spirit, read the word of God and follow what it says, and you will succeed. Marriages are succeeding, let yours be one of them.