Friday 20 March 2015

The Woman And Her Many Demands.

Good evening my beautiful people. I bless God for grace to be given another opportunity to share a word again on this blog. It's going to be another word of wisdom for the married women and I trust the Lord that what is read and learned on this blog site will impact lives and homes positively in Jesus Name.
Yesterday I went for a meeting with the head of the publishing unit of my church, and rather than talk about the main business of the meeting, as women we began to discuss marriage. One interesting aspect of the discussion was the assumed perception of women that their husbands should meet all of their needs/wants. Failure of the man to do this amounts to big problems in the home. And beyond just mere discussion, this scenario plays out in so many home and so there is a need to search the word of God to know the mind of God on this matter.

1 Timothy 5:8
If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 

Proverbs 31:13-18
She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchants ships, bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.
She considers a field and buys it; out of her earning she plants a vine yard.
She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.

These passages are places in the Bible where I can find something said on the topic of providing for the home. I am yet to come across a place in the Bible where it is said that the husband will meet all the needs/wants of his wife. Although I also agree that the man is to provide for the needs of his home. By God's design, the husband is responsible for his family. 1 Timothy 3:4 says a man aspiring to be an overseer of a church must be one who has managed his family well. But I am yet to see anywhere in the Bible where it is said that a woman should be solely dependent on her husband to meet her financial obligations.
A wife as a suitable helper, one of the areas where the wife is to come in and assist her husband as the Lord has ordained it is in the area of providing for the home. In Proverbs 31 as the passage above shows, a wife among other things is expected to work with eager hands. She is expected to provide food for her household, she is expected to bring her food from afar. These are the qualities of her wife of noble character that has been groomed by the Lord and placed in the life of her husband as a suitable helper.
With these in mind, it can be truly said that two are better than one. It is not all the time that a man is in good financial standing. And so during the financial down times of the man, his wife is the God provided shocks absorber placed in his life to help him at these times.
A wife is not placed in the life of his husband to make endless unrealistic demands just because he married her, rather she is in his life to HELP and SUPPORT him to be all that God has called him to be. A wife is also a vessel in hands of God in providing for the needs of the home. No wonder Solomon said in Proverbs 31:12 that a wife of noble character brings her husband good and not harm all the days of her life.
I very much acknowledge the fact that some men get laid back and do not want to provide for their families once they are aware that their wives is financially capable to do so much in the home. The ignorance of such men in that they jeopardize their own prosperity when carry on with that mind set. A man who does not provide for his family, especially his immediate family, the Bible says is worse than an unbeliever. But when the husband genuinely lacks the financial means to meet up with his obligation in the home, then it is just ideal that his wife steps in to help until things get better again for her husband and this the Lord expects her to do in humility and total submission to her husband.  



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