Wednesday 18 March 2015

Trust Vs Betrayal, How Do You Deal With This

I am so very sorry not to have been able to share God's word on this blog in about two days. It's due to the fact that I am running another platform a little broader than this and since the website is been redesigned from what it used to be, my attention is a little divided, but all efforts are towards sharing the word of God and supporting individuals to be better in what the Lord has assigned them to be and do.
One major factor that is assumed to be a success ingredient in building and retaining a successful marriage is TRUST. I shared a story on my website http://www.thewordthatsuits.com/stories-that-teach about a lady who was freaking out because she says she feels betrayed by her husband. And so I'll trust God to open our minds to the issue of trust in marriage.
The first truth that I want us to understand is that humanly speaking, without the grace of God it is difficult to keep faith when the issue of trust arises. There are some who are faithful with their spouses on sex related matters, but are not faithful in other areas such as finances, extended family issues etec. For a man to be totally faithful to his spouse then he must be a man that the Spirit of God truly dwells inside of him.  

Jeremiah 17: 5-10
This is what the Lord says:
“Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who depends on flesh for his strength and whose heart turns away from the Lord. He will be like a bush in the wastelands; he will not see prosperity when it comes. He will dwell in the parched places of the desert, in a salt land where no-one lives.
“But blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”
The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?
“The Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward a man according to his conduct, according to what his deeds deserve.” 

If it is true that it will take only the grace of God for a man to be truly and completely faithful to his wife in all areas and the same theory applies to the woman, and going by what God said in the passage above, then the next thought that comes to mind is: How is it possible to carry on with marriage where trust is highly required? This question now leads us to how we can build trust in our marriage in a healthy way.
I once shared a post on building trust in marriage http://derinsolaobasa.blogspot.com/2013/06/building-trust-in-marriage.html, and I will still discuss today's post on the same line of reasoning. God said, "Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who depends on flesh for his strength." So God does not expect that for any reason at all you should trust any man or depend on any flesh for strength. Although I don't mean this in a negative way, but please follow me closely as we discover more from the word of God.
I very much agree that trust is essential in marriage, but it will be wise if you can channel your trust to your spouse through the route of God. In truth, your spouse will disappoint you, yes, he/she will betray you. Not because he/she wants to hurt you, in fact some betrayal will be conceived as a means to protect you, but yet you are being betrayed. They will betray you because they are just being human and probably cannot help the situation. 
God said the heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. And so to invest your trust in man whether your husband or wife is a risk too costly to take. If I will come to this conclusion, then there is the need to know how to handle the issue of trust in your marriage. And what I will recommend (same I have applied in my marriage) is that rather than trust your spouse, you trust the Lord. Proverbs 21:1 says "The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord; he directs it like a watercourse where he pleases." If the king's heart is in the hands of God, then your husband/wife's heart is also in His hands. Whatever changes you desire to see happen in the life of your husband or wife, it is safer to trust God to make it happen in him or her, than to believe your husband or wife will change by his/her own doing or just because you want him/her to change. 
It is the Lord who form your spouse, He alone searches the heart and examines the mind of your spouse. Beyond where you can ever reach in the heart of your spouse God has been there and know what resides there. If you ever need to trust your spouse on any issue, place the matter before God. Hear Him speak reassuringly to you on it, and just relax and watch your spouse display the majestic power of God that gives you peace in your soul. When you learn to do this, you will have no reason to freak out over a betrayal by your spouse because the Lord whom you trust above your spouse will ensure that you are never betrayed.

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