What Can Happen When God Says No

Sometimes, praying and receiving from God requires a waiting season. This is a time when anxiety builds up and faith is tested. There is always a sense of urgency that makes it look like something crazy will happen if God does not come through. But in the waiting season, days may turn to weeks, and then to months, and then to years. And still, nothing changes, and the world is still oval, or should I say it is still circular in shape (whatever the scientist had said it is).

But there is another dimension to prayer and receiving from God that I believe is also familiar. That is when you have prayed and believed and exercised great faith, and God says NO to your prayers. Yet His thoughts towards you are not evil, but peace to give you a future and hope. So, in today’s blog, we will discuss what happens when God says NO to your prayers.

Some years back, my husband was eyeing a position in the company where he works. As far as he was concerned, he was a perfect fit for the job role. As a matter of fact, his boss had mentioned to him that he was being considered for the role, and he needed to prepare for an interview, as that was a placement policy in his organization. There was no handpicking into job roles allowed.

We prayed together. I sharpened my faith, and we believed God for the best. He also prepared for the interview and gave it his best shot. By the time he did the interview, he was confident he had gotten the job because everything went well. The feedback he got from those who interviewed him was great. And then the wait began.

What we thought would happen in days turned to weeks, and then to months. After about four months of waiting, his boss called him to say that he wouldn’t be getting the role. The boss of his boss refused to approve the role for him, saying that he didn’t have the required exposure for the job.

He was given another role (not precisely what he wanted, which we had prayed and agreed on), but the situation at hand left him no choice but to accept it. Matthew 18:19 tells us that “if two agree concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by our Father in heaven.” This one request was one of those things that my husband and I prayed in agreement for, for four months, yet God declined that request. Or so we thought.

The new role he was given was not in our home country. It required that he relocate to take the job, and, by company policy, it meant that the entire family relocate too. That felt like some respite of some sort. It was not what we wanted, but it wasn’t a complete NO. I gave thanks even in that. Strangely, I wasn’t disappointed. It still proves a ground for gratitude, and I praised God as if I had received the answer that I wanted.

And then he moved first to start the job and the children, and I had to wait another year and two months to be able to join him. It was a very challenging time in our marriage. But in the middle of it, I found the strength to be grateful — the grace to thank God even when I didn’t fully understand what was going on or why we had to go through what we were going through.

I never stopped praying, and I never stopped praising God. You would want to ask me what I was praising God for if He didn’t give me what I wanted, and didn’t prove the efficacy of His own words. But Jesus is all I know. He has done a lot for me in my portfolio of testimonies, so this particular NO was not big enough for me to be ungrateful for. More so, my pursuit is to make heaven, and I know that praise and worship are all they do in heaven, so I'd better cultivate that habit here on earth, too.

About 8 months into my waiting, that is, after my husband left to start his new job, he got an email relating to an immigration enrollment we had put in for 23 months before then. We put in our expression of interest, and nothing happened. We re-enrolled after 12 months, and this was the 11^th month after we re-enrolled. Personally, I had given up on that enrollment. That was another prayer point for my husband and I that I felt God was silent about, but also didn’t feel it was big enough to stop my worship.

The email came, and we were asked to submit our documents for a complete application. Six months after putting in our immigration application, we were able to get our immigration documents to join my husband in the country where he was working. The wait was over, and my steadfastness felt like it paid off. For me, it was like getting two blessings for a single wait.

But if God had stopped at this point, I would have been too blessed because I felt grateful, I felt heard. For me, it was worth the wait. But God didn’t stop there; He continued to show up. Four months into a relocation, we got another email from the country we had applied to in North America. Our application had been approved, and we were to proceed to the next stage of the process. We put our documents together again and submitted them.

Four months later, we got our immigration papers to move to North America, barely 8 months after joining my husband in Europe. We stayed for a couple of more months in Europe on our own decision before moving to North America. But if God had stopped there, I would have been super blessed and graciously grateful. But He didn’t. He continued to show up.

We decided that my husband could not leave his job yet till he got a job similar to what he had. I wasn’t working, and so we could not afford to have both of us unemployed. We went back to praying and trusting God. It was another moment of bringing to life Matthew 18:19. He applied to a couple of places and did a series of interviews, and nothing happened. I didn’t know when or how God would show up, but I was convinced He would.

After settling the children and I in North America, my husband went back to Europe to continue working. It was another time of separation. But your girl held it down with God. If He had held us this far, He will not leave us now. And surely God came through.

Three weeks after my husband returned to Europe, the boss of his boss, who had declined to approve him for the role he wanted three years before then, came visiting the plant where he worked in Europe. This senior boss was on a global tour of their company's facilities. He met my husband in person for the very first time, and they exchanged pleasantries. He mentioned that he had overheard that my husband was planning to resign. Hubby confirmed his plans and said he needed to be close to his family, who now live in North America.

They left it at that, and he wished my husband the best of luck. By the next day, my husband got an email from a regional HR Director saying the company was not willing to let him go, and if his only reason for leaving was to be close to his family, they would find a job for him in North America that would cater to that. That was on the instructions of the senior boss, who had initially declined to approve him for a job he had wanted in Africa.

The same senior boss nominated my husband for the exact job role he was praying for in Africa three years ago and ensured he got it, but now not in Africa, but in North America. Within 3 days, my husband got an offer he could not refuse. It came with a promotion. But good as this sounded, God did not stop there. But I will stop here for now.

I started this story from the point where we were praying, and God did nothing. As a matter of fact, He gave a subtle NO. At that time, it was painful that we didn’t get what we wanted. We didn’t know what He was up to, and it was as though God was cruel. But we learned to thank Him anyway. I didn’t know where it would end, but I trusted the One who was leading the way.

This write-up is just an abridged summary of what the waiting period was like. It was characterized by pain, doubt, suffering, and frustration. But while I was passing through my valley of the shadow of death, God's rod and staff were there to comfort me.

When I needed money, He provided a job for me that paid me six figures monthly, without me applying for the job or a referral coming from anywhere. Just someone who never knew me, looking me up on LinkedIn and offering me a job just like that. And I had not worked for seventeen years before that time.

His NO to my husband and I was not because He stopped being God, or His love for us failed. He was actually preparing a table before us. He took from us what we thought was the best option to give us what was a far better option than our own best. The devil tried his best to create doubt, but God’s love always shows up exactly when we need it.

In three and a half years, I have lived legally and legitimately in three countries, on three different continents, and He is still not done with me yet. I am no more special to God than you. The grace that He showed me in my waiting period is so very much available for you. The grace of God is like a river that never runs dry. The container of faith that you go to that river with determines the quantity of grace that you will carry.

We will all have our refining process with God, unless you are not like gold in His hands. As long as you are precious to God, He will continue to refine you until you shine like He wants you to, and you become all that He has called you to be.

If you are a child of God, do not despise His process; never complain on the training ground. The present suffering is nothing compared to the glory that will be revealed in you, and the entire creation awaits your manifestation.

Just imagined if I had fallen along the way. Imagine if I had cursed God, imagine if I had called Him a liar, I would not have the grace to enjoy what I have today, let alone share it with you. The process may be painful, Romans 8:18 acknowledges that truth when Paul called it suffering. But that suffering is a fraction of the glory that will be revealed in you.

A lot of people see me and call me lucky. I am not lucky; I am just the evidence of God’s goodness and grace. I am the evidence that God does not fail those who wait on Him and trust Him. When you read this piece, be very sure that your NO is not the final verdict. If He says NO today, it’s because something better truly awaits you. 

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Fighting Depression Might Be About Showing Up Against All Odds

I woke up this morning feeling heavy and depressed. The weight of what feels like stagnancy and a long wait in the corridor of breakthrough fell on me this morning, and though this might not feel like a good time to share a blog post. This is a perfect time for me to show up.

I am one person who has experienced and enjoyed the goodness of God without measure. I have won so many battles that I didn’t even have to fight. I have experienced open doors without lifting a finger. I am one person that you would look at and feel that she doesn’t even have a care in the world. But honestly, my heart feels heavy a handful of times—a child of God who has mastered the act of being joyful in little and thankful in much.

Honestly, though, those who would say that I have no care in the world are not totally wrong. It’s just that, that is not the whole story. The devil still visits now and then, and this morning is one of such times that he decided to show up. Unfortunately for him, I have been trusting God on what to share next on the blog, so he has given me what to write on.

Isaiah 49:16 tells me that I am inscribed on the palm of God’s hands, and my walls are continually before Him. In verse 15, He says He will not forget me. But still, under His watchful eyes, the devil will show up to trouble the waters of my peace. If God permitted him, it’s because it’s a valuable event in God's plan for my life.

Psalms 23:4 tells us that even when we walk through the valley of the shadow of death, we will fear no evil because the rod and staff of God comforts us. So, we will find ourselves in places, situations, and challenges that will look like the valley of the shadow of death. But in the midst of that, God is there to comfort us and hold us through it.

True to the scripture above, let me continue with my experience this morning that lasted for a couple of hours. While I was praying, crying, and pouring my heart out to God, I picked up my phone (I am almost saying I am addicted to that tool), opened YouTube, and the first thing that stared me in the face is a YouTube Short of a lady that though I am not following, I stumble on her YouTube Shorts at least 5-6 times a day. And her words always hit me like God was using her to speak to me.

So, this morning I saw her Shorts again. For the whole minute and more of what she said, it was as though she could see through me, know exactly what I was going through, and was telling me to snap out of it. Her words were direct and precise for me. You probably would think that will make me jump out of bed in confidence. But it didn’t. I lay on that bed, cried some more, felt her words soak into my spirit, and I worshipped God.

That was when I realised God had answered my prayers and given me a word to share on the blog today. The next thing I did after that was to get out of bed, take my bath, put on my EarPods, and I began my proper morning worship. I had an agreement with God that August would be my month of dancing. I would spend between 30minutes to an hour of my morning in worship.

In the place of worship, strategies began to drop in my spirit. Ideas of growth began to well up inside of me. I began to develop a blueprint of what to do next. The purpose of the wait and the things to do in the waiting room corridor were beginning to get clearer. God was speaking while I was worshipping.

I feel a lot better now, and I have no one but God to thank for that. I have not sought counsel from anyone up to this moment. I have not shared my experience with anyone. I am sharing it first on this blog post, but I feel great again. As always, God came through. Indeed, His rod and staff comforted me. He gave me the right word at the exact right moment. That lady created that YouTube Shorts for me for today.

God knew today would happen even before it happened. He had given His word through His servant ahead of time, and because he orders my steps, He pointed me to the place to receive what He had prepared for me ahead of time. He is truly my very present help in time of trouble.

No matter the challenge I experience, and even in very good times, my default mode is gratitude. Praise and worship for me have become a weapon. I am genuinely grateful for those worship ministers that God has placed on the earth. I own their songs in my spirit, and when I don’t have any prayer to speak out, their songs become my prayer. Their lyrics become a heavenly voice in my spirit—the assurance of God’s goodness and grace in my life.

And believe me, those lyrics have fetched me countless victories. They have pulled down many Jericho walls in my life and broken countless chains. Worship is more than singing and dancing; it is for me the acknowledgement of God in my space—the evidence of His goodness, the display of His splendor, and the truth of His power. And again, this morning worship did not do less for me. It revived my confidence in God.

Depression is real. The devil throws it at us now and then, like a thunderbolt. For some, it sinks in deep, and they never recover. The interesting thing is that sometimes you don’t even see it coming. A little overthinking of an issue, and depression slips into your spirit. For days unknown, you need to ensure that you remain in the hollow of God’s hands.

The presence of God in your life and the abundance of the Holy Spirit in your life are not just for fun; it’s for a time and season when the devil comes knocking. This knocking does not come preannounced. But when God is the strength of your life, you can be sure that the door of your life will not be opened to satan.

A lady that I don’t know, I have never met, and might never meet, was the vessel God used in speaking to me this morning. I share my story, and I pray that God uses it to meet a need in your life, too, in Jesus’ name.

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When your spouse cheats, what will be your response? Here is my insight.

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A handful of divorces in marriages happen as a result of infidelity, and to the dismay of the devil, I will not stop writing about it. Even if I know what my approach will be, I want to ask a question on the best way to solve the problem of unfaithfulness in marriage. Would it be to forgive and repair or to take a walk and divorce? And so, we will take each of the two options and analyze them in a very practical manner.

First, we will consider the option of taking a walk and going the way of a divorce, most especially considering the fact that a lot of people find it very hard to live with the thought of infidelity in their marriage. That is a huge issue that can’t just be swept under the carpet as though it doesn’t hurt. It’s like stabbing at the back by someone you have loved with all of your heart and dedicated quality time and quality part of your life and emotions to. So, if I am allowed to reason with those who feel pained by the betrayal of a cheating spouse, I would, with every sense of sincerity and honesty, say that I feel their pain and understand clearly what it means to be in that position.

As a matter of fact, that is the only acceptable reason for a divorce according to Jesus in Matthew 19:9. So I can say that even God recognizes the pain that infidelity and adultery cause in marriage. But can divorce solve the problem? Will taking a walk and getting a divorce kill the pain that has been caused by adultery in marriage? 

And I say this confidently that even though it might soothe the pain for a while (if ever it does, because I have never experienced a divorce), will it alleviate the pain forever? Will it affect the children produced in the marriage positively? And looking at the whole picture, is it better to get a divorce or to remain married? With divorce also comes the pain of divorce itself. It's like a complete loss of a loved one, first to cheating and then to divorce. 

Before we proceed to the second option, I want to draw our attention to the one thing we miss about divorce in the Bible. Even though Jesus cited the case of infidelity as an acceptable reason for a divorce, Paul finished it off in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 that a wife is not to divorce her husband. If she does, she should remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband, and a husband is not to divorce his wife. 

So, we have the whole picture of the divorce situation from God's perspective. Paul says he is not the one issuing the command but the Lord. But note that I am not in any way encouraging infidelity in marriage, nor am I an advocate for a cheating spouse. Still, I am an advocate of a working marriage against all odds.

So, we then proceed to the second option. The option to stay, forgive, and repair. You then want to ask how possible it is to forgive such a grievous sin. Some cite issues of disease transmission and its likes and wonder how one can just act like nothing happened and stay in it. Now, this is where the grace of God and the strength of the Holy Spirit come in. You won’t do this by your self-ability because that self-ability is not strong enough to see you through. This is where you need the strength, power, and grace of God.

When Jesus was asked why Moses permitted divorce in Matthew 19:7, His response in Matthew 17:8 was phenomenally clear. It was because of the hardness of their hearts that Moses permitted them to divorce their wives, but from the beginning, it wasn’t so. What I am learning here is that if we give God enough room in our hearts, even in situations like this, it won’t end in a divorce. Divorce only comes into play when we have hardened our hearts to God’s touch.

You will probably want to then ask me if it’s possible to forgive such, and practically speaking, my answer will be a big Yes. I have written about trust in marriage a couple of times. You cannot change an unfaithful spouse; only God can. Your assignment is to hand him or her over to God and trust God to do what you cannot do in them.  

The reality of the situation is that your spouse can be remorseful and truly change by virtue of his or her inner self. Or your spouse can just devise a better cover-up and continue. And in truth, you might never know. But there is One who will always know, who can change your spouse, and in fact, heal your marriage. That One person is God, and He is faithful to care for what you have committed into His hands. 

Some have also raised the concern of the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, which cannot be ruled out in this situation, most especially when your spouse has been unfaithful more than once or unrepentant about their sin. If you have developed a bond with God, you will know and understand how so special you are to Him that He will not allow your body to suffer for a sin you did not commit. No matter how bad your spouse is, you are protected because you are under the watchful eyes of God. 

Now, the second option appears to me like the winning option. Both for the one who feels betrayed and the one who has betrayed. Forgiving an act of infidelity in your marriage does not make you stupid or weak. In fact, it is a sign of strength. When your motive for forgiving is more to please God, then God steps in and does the repair. 

Then the one who has betrayed the other and anticipates a negative outcome but gets a pardon is then remorseful and repentant under the dealings of God in their lives. But if in the case of a lack of remorse and repentance, you can be certain that his or her punishment will eventually be due and duly served, too. You remember the story of Abigail and Nabal in 1 Samuel 25. But it's just good that you let God do the punishing while you remain in His will.

Some might think this approach does not apply in our day. But I tell you that I have seen in real life those who have been confronted with such a situation as this and have taken the two different options we just analyzed. Those who choose the second option with the full strength of God and prayerfully do so have significantly rejoiced afterward. And that, by God’s grace, will always be our testimony because, come what may, we will always win in Jesus' name.  

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What Should a Wife Do When the Support is Hard to Give

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In Genesis 2:18, God said it was not good for the man to be alone, and He would make a helper comparable to him. Another version calls her a suitable helper. And so further down in Genesis 2, we read about the making of a woman from the rib of the man, who became a wife to the man. So, this became the foundation of marriage.

From this scripture and many others in the Bible, we have determined that one of the many reasons for marriage is to provide support and care for one another. The wife was created primarily for the purpose of support, although she also has other responsibilities within the marriage.

However, I would like to share a scenario in today’s blog that requires deep thought. A woman legally marries a man, and everything appears to be in order before the marriage. A few months into the marriage, the wife got separated from her husband on the grounds of impotency.

Before we proceed, I want to note that I cannot confirm precisely whether this was the case before they got married, or if the wife was aware of the condition prior to the marriage. But what I can tell, and share, is that impotency was the reason for the separation, which eventually led to the divorce.  

If the wife is supposed to be a suitable helper to her husband, how then do we reconcile this situation where she is the one directly affected by her husband's shortfall? Is she still supposed to wait and support her husband in this situation, or is it okay for her to walk away, just as this wife has done? Let us remember that marriage is designed for “till death do us part.” Other than adultery as found in Matthew 19:9, no other grounds except for death are permitted for a divorce.

Some will argue that in a marriage with no sex, no hope of having children at some point, then there is nothing the wife is waiting to do in that marriage. And that is where we get it all wrong. The first point I want to bring forward concerns the declaration that founded marriage at its inception. And it says, “It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.”

So, if a man is perfect, capable, and without any need for help, then God will not have to make a suitable helper for him. Another thing that comes to mind is that God never specified the area of a man’s life where help is needed. As a wife, your assignment is not limited to a defined area of your husband’s life where you should provide help. If your husband were perfect, then you would not be needed in his life.

The situation I mentioned above does not fall within the category of death or adultery. And based on what we have seen in the Bible, it does not fall within God’s approved reason for a divorce, either. Therefore, what God expects of a wife in this situation is to remain and help. If there is a weakness in her husband’s life, which she has identified in this case, then the next step is for her to step in and help, as God has assigned her to do.

The next question that will readily come to mind is: how can she help in this situation? She may not be a doctor or a medical professional. Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” A wife who is assigned to help her husband is not left without herself. If she is not a medical professional, she can at least pray to the one who can do far more than a medical professional can.

One truth remains unchanging: you cannot run a successful marriage and be the best version of yourself with your intellect. You need God, His guidance, and His Word to be successful in it. Your fervent prayer for your husband’s situation will bring about a solution, which you should approach with attentiveness and objectivity. So, you need to pray and learn to hear from God, then do what the Lord tells you to do when He instructs you.

This situation is not strange, as it has occurred a couple of times in the Bible. Abraham and Sarah had to wait many years to have a child. We were never told the reason why, but the couple stood with each other through the waiting period. Isaac and Rebekah, Samson’s parents, and Elizabeth and Zachariah are all examples of couples in the Bible who waited to conceive a child. We don’t know if it was as a result of impotency or that the womb was closed. But they didn’t walk out of the union at the sight of trouble. They stood together and won as a team.

There are many reasons why marriage was instituted, and physical intimacy is just a bonding catalyst in a marriage and an avenue for reproduction. But when we sum it up, it is not the primary reason why God instituted marriage.

In every situation and challenge, the truth remains that two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. Solomin says that if one falls, the other may lift him up. Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). This is more of a reason why God instituted marriage than for physical intimacy.

As I conclude, I would like to emphasize that there are many challenges we face from time to time, whether as individuals or as couples. Some challenges will affect the marriage, where it's either the husband against the wife, or both may be united against a common challenge. But the fact remains that two are better than one.

You don’t run away from your marriage in the face of challenges. Whether married or not, you will face challenges. No matter what it is, even in the face of impotency, you stay together, fight the challenge together, pray together, and win together because a threefold cord is not easily broken.

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Is There a Profit in the Pain? Don’t Waste the Trial

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That we face challenges or go through trials is a constant in life, except that you are a day-old baby, toddler, or infant who cannot comprehend much. That you will face challenges and trials in life is a constant thing in life. Unfortunately, because we don’t know what the future holds and the timings of life belong to God, there is little or nothing we can do to avoid challenges. 

Some challenges can feel so crushing, while some feel light. Some linger for so long, while some are quick to go away. It is so easy to focus our attention on these challenges that we let them shut the door to our only way of escape. Some even die needlessly under the weight of the challenge. For some, they wait for others who equally have their share of concerns to help them out.

I have had my own fair share of troubles in life. I suppose I would have been a wasted person without the challenges I have faced in my life. I am not a challenge pro, but I have experienced enough in my lifetime to make me want to give up on God. The only truth is that where am I giving up to? God is the wing beneath my wings, even in the face of troubles. When Paul says in Romans 8:38-39 that what shall separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus, I happen to be one of those he was referring to.

When faced with challenges, two words that have worked for me and I want to share in today’s post are “DISCERNMENT” and “RETROSPECT.” The dictionary defines discernment as “perception in the absence of judgement with a view of obtaining spiritual guidance and understanding. It also defines retrospect as a “review of past course of events or period of time.”

In Jeremiah 29:11, God tells us that He knows the thoughts He has towards us, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give us a future and a hope. But when we face those crumbling challenges, this scripture feels like a lie. Then Isaiah 49:16 tells us that God has inscribed us on the palms of His hands, and our walls are continually before Him. Luke 12:7 and Matthew 10:30 tell us that God knows and cares for us so well that the strands of hair on our head are numbered by Him. Psalms 23:1 reminds us that the Lord is our shepherd, and we shall not want. Psalms 121 tells us that He who keeps us does not slumber. I can go on and on picking out Bible scriptures that make you feel God must be lying with these words in the face of crumbling challenges, but is that really the case?

James 2:1 tells us to count it as joy when we face trials, and Hebrews 12:3-11 speaks of the profit that comes with chastisement by God, which translates to challenges and trials that we face. If, then, there is a profit in challenges we face, painful as they may be, then there is a need to look beyond the challenge and think deeply into the mind of God concerning what you are going through.

Remember that discernment is defined as perception in the absence of judgment with the view of obtaining spiritual guidance and understanding, so the first thing your challenge needs is discernment. You are not making any judgment yet, but you want to gain as much understanding as possible regarding that event in your life with the aim of gaining spiritual guidance. You want to pray that God opens your eyes of understanding to see what He sees concerning what you are going through.

If God loves and cares for you like He said He does, and God never lies, and He is not taking the challenge away, then believe me when I say there is a profit in that trial. When you pray, God answers. As you seek understanding into the mind of God concerning the event of your life, the next useful word you need is retrospect.

There is nothing new under the sun. There is nothing that is happening to you that has never happened before. So, you need to search for events similar to yours. I assure you that you will find an abundance of them in the Bible. Check for patterns similar to yours. One truth is that you will find deliverance at the end of each story, except in cases where sin is involved. Then note that if God did it for them, He’ll do yours too, if you remain in faith and obedience to His leading.

Oftentimes, when God is nudging me to do something or take action, and I am dragging my feet, I find out that a fight erupts between my husband and me out of nowhere. Even when I am angry, I slow down to pray and ask why that occurrence occurred. Why the unnecessary fight? And even though this may not be a huge challenge, I always realize that it is God screaming for my attention, and pushing me to do what He has laid on my heart to do that I had been procrastinating about.

Your miracle is like a diamond in the rough. Your glory is hidden in your story, and your testimony resides in the center of your test. To avoid the story is to throw away the glory, and to run away from the test is to do away with the testimony. A lot of people have focused on the test and have missed the glory that has been set before them.

A lot have drowned in the test, and have gotten buried in the story because they let the test and story take the center stage, and forgot to discern and then retrospect. God loves you too much to allow you to go through a profitless journey. The journey is painful yet profitable.

Isaiah 43:2 tells us that when we pass through the waters, God will be with us, and when we pass through the rivers, they shall not overflow us, and when we walk through the fire, we shall not be burned. Is God lying here? Absolutely not. Moses was in the river as a baby; the river did not overflow him, and Meshach, Shadrach, and Abednego were in the fire, yet they were not consumed. God is tested and proven to be true, so your case will not be different.

But truth be told, God never promised us a life without challenges; He only promised that when we are going through it, He will be with us and help us through it. Psalm 23:4 tells us that when we walk through the valley of the shadow of death, you know those challenges that look like they want to take your life with them, you should still not be afraid because even in that situation, God is still with you. So, when next you walk through a trial, don’t just endure it—discern it. Don’t just survive it—reflect on it. For your glory is hidden in your story, and your victory is already in motion.

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A Valuable Secret About Trust in Marriage That You Should Know.

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Whenever my 21-year-old daughter and I get to talk about marriage, one thing she never fails to say is that I can’t tolerate a cheating husband. I suppose many people share that same point of view. Infidelity in marriage is a big deal-breaker for almost anyone, including me.

It is so interesting to note that adultery is the only permissible reason for a divorce. We have seen this stated directly by Jesus in Matthew 19:9. But then, God hates divorce. We also see this in Malachi 2:16. Looking at this issue critically, if adultery (which is having an extra-marital affair, also categorised as cheating) is a sin. Then divorce, which Jesus says is permitted in the case of adultery, is also a sin; it would then appear that there is some mix-up in these two pronouncements.

But God is not confused, and so we should not be confused either. Divorce is a sin, and so is adultery. For those who say adultery in marriage is a deal-breaker for them and they will never tolerate that, they have a valid point. Even our God is a jealous God. I don’t pray that any couple would have to face the trauma of infidelity in their marriages.

So, how do we deal with the issue of infidelity in marriage? You can’t continue to trail your spouse to ensure they are faithful. That will be too much of a waste of time, and that in itself is a deal-breaker for some people when they are being watched and ripped off of every sense of freedom in the marriage.   

And when you say you trust your spouse, what is the basis of that trust? Is it because of the character they have exposed to you, or because you think you know them so well? This particular approach, in many cases, has ended in broken trust—character changes. Change is the most constant characteristic of a man (and by man, I mean male and female).

Jeremiah 17:5 says, “cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength.” However, you may wonder if this applies to marriages as well. What I will say is that if there are trust issues in marriage, then I think it applies. If the God who said it did not exclude any circumstance, then it applies to all possible case scenarios.

The next thing that will readily come to mind is how you can run your marriage successfully without trusting your spouse. And that is the highlight of this blog post. Trust is crucial in marriage, and you don’t have to distrust your spouse because the Bible says, “Cursed is the man who trusts man.”

However, to guard your heart from every possible disappointment or brokenheartedness, there is a way by which you can handle trust in your marriage that will guarantee you peace of mind.  Jeremiah 17:7 says, “Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, and whose hope is in the Lord.” When you trust every aspect of your marriage to the Lord, including the issue of trust, then you are covered.

Trusting God with the issue of trust in your marriage goes like this: while not distrusting your spouse, you are committing him or her to God to watch over and keep, so that they will not do anything that will give you a reason not to trust them or do anything that will betray your trust. So, you are trusting your spouse through the trust you have in God, Whom you have committed them to. 

Your spouse is a human with the full capacity to be tempted and to sin. They may not want to betray your trust, but even the strongest man can fall. Whether done intentionally or not, there is a probability that they will disappoint you. With man, there are no guarantees, but not so with God. Paul says in 2 Timothy 1:12, and it is very accurate, that God is able to keep what we have committed to Him. If you have committed your spouse to God, then be persuaded and assured, like Paul is, that God is able to keep until the end what and who you have committed to him.

I remember my story before I discovered this truth in my early days of marriage. Because I always felt I wasn't getting enough attention from my husband, I would sneak up on him and check his phone messages. And you can be sure that I will find something to upset me and brew a fight. It didn’t help, nor did it make us closer. It only widened the gap between us, and the wedge of distrust grew even wider.

I stopped looking to him for a change. He works in the corporate world, and he would interact with females whether I like it or not. I can’t stop him from having female friends, but I can work on how I handle the knowledge of those friendships.

I started experiencing peace in my life and marriage when I began to do what I'm sharing in this blog post. I no longer check his phone. I probably stopped that more than a decade ago. Because I don’t go through his phone, I don’t see what will cause an unnecessary fight in my marriage. I won the devil on that point. And believe me, the attention that I craved for then, I have more than enough of it now.  

My husband lives and works in another country, far from home. I can’t stop him from going to work. I don’t have a job yet (still praying for one). We have children and bills to pay, and I don’t fully know those he interacts with, except the ones we talk about. I can’t check phones or micromanage his activities. If I have not grown out of my insecurities and learn to trust my husband through God, I will probably have developed high blood pressure in the past two years of us living apart with only brief visits.

I pray that this blog message has blessed you, and I trust you and your marriage into the hands of God to guard it diligently, as only He can do, in Jesus’ name. 

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What Happens When You Don’t Speak Up in Marriage

 

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It appears that sharing stories is what is being laid in my heart lately. So, I will be sharing another true-life story in today’s blog post, and I pray that it blesses you and makes a meaningful impact on your life, as you navigate your marriage journey or prepare to start one soon.

A young lady married the love of her life when she was in her mid-thirties. She was never married prior to that time, and she had never been with a man before she took her marriage vows. She got married as a virgin, which was what was expected of a devoted Christian that she was.

Her husband was a good man who had never been married before, but had been with other women prior to meeting her. So, he was not a virgin as his wife was when they met. She was all he wanted in a woman, and he concluded that he had finally found the perfect woman. He was going to marry her and finally settle down.

They dated for a couple of months and thought they knew all they needed to know about each other. All looked good, and they took the relationship to the next level. Soon, the wedding bells began to ring. They got married and looked forward to a beautiful life together.

Within the first few weeks of the marriage, trouble started. What started as a promising union between two Bible believing Christians soon snowballed into a nightmare. The husband became grumpy for no reason.

Nothing his wife did or said made sense to him. The more she tried to find the missing link, the worse the situation became. She prayed and prayed, but this man was just growing into a monster every passing day.

She concluded this must be a demonic attack and that there was probably a spiritual undertone to what was going on in her marriage. Her husband did not sit her down to tell her anything. It was always one heap load of unreasonable complaints and fault-finding after another.

Over time, he became aggressive and would beat her up. This was a big U-turn from the man she thought she knew. The loving man who doted on her when they were dating. She began to think.

“Did I miss something?”

“Was I in too much of a hurry to marry, given my age, that I didn’t see this trait about him?”

“How come he has become a monster all of a sudden?”

These were her constant thoughts. She noticed that some of her wedding attire was missing from the house. That was a reason for suspicion. When her husband discovered she was pregnant, he was not even happy. She lost the pregnancy within the first trimester without her husband showing any form of concern.

Her mother died when she was just 21 years of age. Her father was a faithful and loving husband to her Mummy while she was alive, so this happening to her in her own marriage, barely months into the marriage, is really strange. She grew up in a loving home where she never saw her parents quarrel.

Her sisters have very loving husbands, too. None of them presented with this aggressive trait. What did she miss, and how did she miss it? These were questions she needed God to help her figure out. She remembered her mum had warned them all not to trust anyone on her dying bed. This must be what she was talking about. There are evil forces at play here.

When deep aggression started to show up in the relationship with her husband, she ran away for her dear life. But this wasn’t what she bargained for. This was not how she wanted her story to go. She had waited patiently for a good marriage, for it to just end months after it began. 

Her father, who devoted his life to raising her and her sisters without remarrying, after the passing of their mother, had no choice but to intervene when she ran back home and told him what was going on in her marriage.

He contacted her parents-in-law, and they agreed to a meeting to find out what was going on and how they could resolve the issue. The meeting was held, but it did not produce any results, as the husband walked out on his parents and her father without providing any reasonable explanation for his actions, other than to accuse his wife of accusing his family of being diabolical.

She returned to her matrimonial home after a while, hoping that things would change. She tried to comply with all of her husband’s rules and regulations, but there was no improvement. When he became violent again, she made up her mind to leave for good. This is reality, and she would face it rather than die trying.

A year later, her husband filed for divorce, and they both went their separate ways for good. The marriage barely lasted for 18 months, and that turned out to be the worst time of her life.

Many years after the divorce, the husband came across an old friend, and they spent time catching up on missed moments. He opened up to his friend about his failed marriage and attributed it to a lack of trust from his ex-wife, claiming she became unreasonable and accused his family of diabolical activities. He wasn’t going to build a marriage where trust was lacking.

He also complained bitterly about the poor sexual relationship they had. The complaint about sex came up in almost every sentence he said. And his friend was silently taking note of that. Interestingly, he made no mention of his violence towards his wife. To his friend, the total sum of his story did not add up. With a zeal to see if there was a possibility of reviving what would have been a beautiful marriage, he pleaded to speak to the ex-wife, and he reluctantly gave him her telephone number.

The next day, the friend called up the wife, introduced himself as her ex-husband’s old friend, and got her comfortable enough to speak to him. She opened up and told him the horrible things she endured with his friend and why she had to walk away for her own sanity. It was an emotionally loaded conversation, but the wife seemed to be at peace with herself and was doing well.

It was at the point of talking to the ex-wife that the friend was told that the man was cheating on her and was set to marry the other woman. That was the reason he rushed for a divorce. Unfortunately, the lady he wanted to marry abandoned him for another man, and the hopeful marriage that necessitated the divorce never happened.

There was some clarity after the friend spoke to the wife, but it wasn’t enough to explain why the man became a monster just after getting married. The friend who was a Christian decided to pray for these two. He wanted God to intervene and reunite them. God hates divorce, so He should intervene to fix this. The friend prayed to understand the root cause of the issue, which was still unclear even after hearing from both parties.

Then he realized what the problem was. Sex. That was the puzzle that destroyed that marriage. The lady was a virgin; she had never been physically intimate with a man before. That first experience must have been excruciating, given her age. So, she complained and avoided it as much as she could.

The friend called for a meeting with the husband and decided to ask to know more about the sex problem he has been whining about when talking about his ex-wife. The husband told his friend that his wife was always complaining and unwilling. They never talked about it, but he bought her books and assumed she should read them to get a clue on how to make love, being that she was a first-time lover.

The man got frustrated by his wife’s naïve disposition towards sex and began to cheat. Because of his guilt of cheating, he tried to frustrate his wife out of the marriage to give him room to marry his cheating partner, as he was not okay with having sex outside of wedlock. He had promised himself he would not commit adultery in marriage, and that was what his wife was making him do.

His friend gave the wife a second call to ask her also about their sex life while being married. She acknowledged that it wasn’t great because of her situation, but her husband never discussed that with her. She was completely oblivious to the fact that the reason he was mean to her was because of sex.

This news broke her, but she was too broken by the way he treated her for her to offer herself to him without any effort from him. He needed to show that he wanted her back; otherwise, she was good without him. The husband, on the other hand, was still consumed with pride and shame to go on his knees and beg.

They are still divorced and remain unmarried, to the best of my knowledge.

I share this true-life story to bring to light the little things that have significant potential for disrupting a home and marriage. The simple lack of communication resulted in conspiracy theories and unhealthy assumptions. The assumptions gave birth to distrust, and distrust gave birth to anger and violence.

If only he had been forthcoming with feelings and helped her through the pain of first-time sex with a mature virgin wife. Communication in marriage is non-negotiable, but note that how you communicate is also as important as what you communicate.

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In this Situation, Resilience and Diligence are All That is Required of You.

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One of the things that makes one stand out from the crowd is that fine word called “resilience”. The dictionary defines “resilience” as “the capacity to withstand or recover quickly from difficulties.” Proverbs 12:24 tells us that “diligent hands will rule,” so it begins to make sense when we see resilient people thrive.

While some may think that diligence means hard work, which is correct to an extent, the true meaning of diligence is “careful and persistent work or effort.” So those who will rule are not those who try once and give up. They are not the ones who will run in the face of difficulties, and when things are not adding up.  

Winning means being able to carefully repeat the effort of work multiple times, even when it proves difficult. Every iteration of effort is loaded with lessons that help you gain expertise in what you are doing. The more you attempt, the more you learn, and the more you grow mastery of your craft.

Being a hero is not a one-game effort. It spans many careful efforts, learning something new and different in each attempt of carefully doing the same thing over again.

In the first paragraph of this blog, I mentioned that resilience is that one thing that makes one stand out from the crowd, and we know that resilience is the capacity to withstand or recover quickly from difficulties. James 1:2-4 says that we should count it as joy when we face trials and challenges, because it produces patience in us. When patience completes its work in us, it makes us perfect, lacking nothing.

One thing I am learning as I write this blog is this: resilience is me having the capacity to withstand the obstacles and challenges that I may face as I progress towards my goal. With the acquisition of resilience, I can diligently put in the effort needed to succeed. From the book of James, I understand that resilience produces patience in me. Patience is what I need to attain diligence. With diligence, I will rule.

I am led to encourage someone with this post, as I encourage myself too. Sometimes, it feels like you are putting in your best, and it just isn’t good enough. One mistake I have made over the years when it comes to the pursuit of my goals is that I have had to change directions too many times. I am full of ideas, such that if one doesn’t work quickly, I am fast to jump to the next possible thing.

I have acquired many skills, but I have not monetized any, simply because I have not given them the time required for growth and development. I am a little impatient with myself, and sometimes I won’t blame myself. But whether I blame myself or not, changing direction too many times just delays the process.

However, there is one crucial aspect to consider regarding resilience and diligence. Deuteronomy 8:18 tells us that it is God who gives us the ability to produce wealth. And then we learn in Isaiah 48:17 that it is the Lord who teaches us to profit, who leads us by the way we should go. So, what that tells me is that we can actually be resilient and diligent in the wrong direction. And this can lead to frustration and burnout.

So, the resilience and diligence that lead to wealth are those that align with the direction set before you by God. Before pouring yourself into a venture and fighting on it with every ounce of your strength and determination, the first thing to check for and verify very clearly is if that is what God has purposed for you to do.

One truth you should know is that the devil would never want you to grow. His mission is to ensure that you remain stagnant and poor. If you must grow based on the desire of the devil, it has to be an illegitimate and sinful growth. Those ones that come from shameful means. But if you must grow through a righteous and sinless means, then it will come with diverse trials, temptations, challenges, and difficulties. These things serve to prove your genuine desire for your goal, cultivate patience in you, and enhance your knowledge and expertise in your craft.

And so, James says, count it all joy when those things happen, because honestly, it shows that you are going somewhere. And only those with grit, resilience, diligence, and persistence will persevere through those challenges and emerge victorious on the other side. Even running this blog platform comes with its own fair share of fights.

However, the truth remains that if it is God Who is leading you and teaching you to profit, giving you the ability to produce wealth, then the battle belongs to Him, not you. Because he says in Exodus 14:14 that He will fight for you, and you will hold your peace. And if God is handling the fighting part of the drill, you will handle the resilience and diligence part of it. You will always need to show up, and show up in your careful and best effort.  

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When Divorce is Inevitable But God Steps In

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In today’s blog, I want to share a true-life story. What I want you to see are the simple things that can destroy a marriage. This is a heartbreaking story that has a beautiful ending simply because one party was wise enough to run to God and let God take the lead in the situation. 

 Dave was a hardworking man, deeply committed to his job. He was a top executive in his office located in a city different from where he lived with his wife and four children. For about five years, he stayed in the company’s guest house during the workweek and returned home on weekends. It was an arrangement both he and Lindsay—his wife—had agreed to, though it was far from ideal.

Lindsay was a stay-at-home mom, and the family relied heavily on Dave’s income. Though the separation wore on her, she accepted it, trusting that it was temporary and necessary. She kept their communication simple—mostly “Good morning” messages—because she never knew when Dave would be free.

But Lindsay had one thing anchoring her: a strong relationship with Jesus.

One Friday evening, Lindsay went all out. She cooked Dave’s favorite meal, cleaned the house, and ensured everything was perfect to avoid any quarrel. Their marriage already felt like walking on eggshells, and she was doing her best to hold things together.

Dave came home late, as usual. He didn’t greet her. He didn’t touch the food. He went straight to bed.

Lindsay stood stunned. There’d been no disagreement before he left on Monday. Their only communication during the week had been her routine “good morning” messages, which he had responded to.

Trying not to provoke anything, she let him be and spent the night in her children’s room. Her children were off to boarding school, with only her last baby in the house. But sleep wouldn't come. Her heart was restless. Her thoughts raced. Why was he ignoring her again? What had she done?

She lay on the bed, restless for about two hours. At around 1:00 AM, she decided to confront him. She stood up and walked to her matrimonial bed. Sitting on the edge of the bed, she tapped his feet to wake him up. 

His eyes opened—cold, angry, accusing. “What?” he asked sharply.

“I’m sorry to disturb you,” she said quietly, “but I just wanted to know if I’ve done something wrong. You didn’t speak to me or eat anything.”

Dave sat up, face hard. “Do you really want to know what you’ve done?”

Her heart pounded. “Yes,” she said. “I want to know.”

The marriage had been a constant drain on her emotions and mental state, but she wanted to know what the matter was this time.

He stared at her. “Haven’t you noticed I’ve been avoiding you since yesterday?”

She blinked. Honestly, she hadn’t. She was so used to being ignored by him that this felt like more of the same.

Then came the bombshell.

“Who’s the father of the children you’ve given birth to?”

Lindsay was confused. “What children?”

“Our children,” he said, eyes blazing. “While I was sleeping last night, something woke me up—and my spirit told me they’re not mine.”

She laughed—dry, bitter laughter. “Since when did you become a pastor? If the Spirit of God is speaking, He won’t say something that’s a lie.”

That only enraged him more. “You must be stupid to think I’m joking!” he roared, unleashing a torrent of insults. He hurled vile words at her with venom, breaking her heart with each one.

Lindsay stood frozen in shock, tears pouring down her face. The man she had once adored now looked like a stranger—a cruel, unrecognizable shadow. She wondered what she had done to deserve this from him. He poured himself a glass of whiskey while she returned to her children’s room, trembling.

She cried. Deep, gut-wrenching sobs. Her chest tightened from the pain. She called her sister, desperate for comfort, but the ache remained.

Then she prayed. She cried out to God with words only He could understand. Slowly, the tightness in her chest began to ease. She spoke to God, telling Him she needed to sleep. Soon, her sobs faded. Peace started to settle in.

She fell asleep.

Four hours later, she awoke to a stirring in her heart. She heard the Lord speak clearly: “Go and speak to your husband. Say what I tell you to say.”

She obeyed. She entered the room and tapped Dave’s feet until he woke up. He still looked at her with disgust, but she spoke anyway.

“Whatever spirit told you those children are not yours… it was right.”

Dave sat up, stunned, eager to hear the whole confession.

His wife had been cheating on him after all, he thought.

“But,” she continued, “before I tell you who their real father is, I want you to do a DNA test on all four children. And when the results come out, let me see them. After that, I’ll take them to their real father.”

The power in her voice shook him.

That was a challenge he didn’t see coming. The rage in his eye fell. All of a sudden, he became sober.

“What have I just done?” he thought.

He reached out, trying to hold her. But this time, she had reached her breaking point. She took a few steps back to avoid his grip.

“Tell me, Dave,” she said. “How much money did you have when I agreed to marry you? Was it your wealth that attracted me to you? Now that you’re successful, now that your bank account is full, this is how you reward me? By accusing me of adultery and infidelity? Of passing another man’s children off as yours?”

She turned to leave. Dave grabbed her hand, panicked.

“I don’t know what came over me,” he said. “I just... I woke up at 3 a.m. and heard a voice telling me to ask about the children. I couldn’t shake it off. I’m not saying all of them aren’t mine—maybe one or two...”

“I’ve told you already,” she interrupted. “None of them are yours. Do the DNA test, and I’ll take them to their real father.”

With that, she walked away—heart aching but strangely lighter.

She felt much better than she had felt a couple of hours before. She knew she wanted to sleep and get better rest.

Dave sat in silence. Broken. Convicted. He tried to beg, but this was just too heavy to overlook and assume never happened. Other offenses can be ignored easily, but not this one.

Later, he came to her in their children’s room where she was staying. He knelt. He cried. He begged. He let go of his ego and asked for forgiveness. And Lindsay, through the voice of God in her heart, heard the whisper: Let it go.

She could not ignore the voice. The courage, boldness, and words she needed to confront the situation came from that voice.

She forgave and let go. 

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The story didn’t start with the DNA test. Years earlier, a doctor’s visit had shaken Dave. One of their children was to undergo a minor surgery that required a genotype test as a pre-surgery requirement. The result of that test revealed that the child’s genotype didn’t match what Dave believed was his own or that of Lindsay.

Lindsay didn’t take this seriously as she was convinced she had not cheated on her husband. To her, there was no reason to be afraid.  They decided to undergo a genotype test to dispel the suspicion. When they finally did, they found Dave’s genotype wasn’t what he thought it was. His genotype matched that of his child perfectly. But the seed of doubt had already been planted.

Social media stories about paternity fraud added fuel to his fears. Over the years, the doubt festered until it exploded into a storm that nearly wrecked their home.

Lindsay had no idea what Dave was going through. She never gave the genotype issue a thought after the test, as she assumed the result had settled the matter. Little did she know that Dave still had his doubts.

Two years after that night, circumstances led to a formal DNA test for all four children, conducted by a foreign organization.

The results: all four children were 99% matches with Dave.

That was the happiest day of his life.

The Bible instructs us not to be ignorant of the devices of the enemy. I am trying to imagine what the story would be if Lindsay had not prayed. If she decided to handle the situation based on the emotions at that time. Or probably seeking help from a human rather than God.

The devil would have ripped that marriage apart with a false accusation. Probably the damage would have been more intense than it was. They might have realised the truth when it was a little too late.

No matter how simple or big the issue is, your first point of call should always be God. If you have experienced Him through little miracles, you'll always be sure He’ll come through with big challenges, like the one we have above. You cannot do marriage based on your intellect. You will always need God to make it a beautiful experience.

Thank you so much for visiting this blog channel. Your time is well appreciated. Please help a friend by sharing this with others. And keep visiting because I assure you that there will always be something to inspire you here. 

There is a bookshelf page on our parent website, https://www.thewordthatsuits.com/, which I encourage you to visit. There are books there that will have a profound impact on your life and marriage. If you love to read books online, they are available in eBook format, which is suited to your needs. And if you don't have the time to read, you won't be missing out, as they are also available in audiobook formats, perfect for you. Just click on the book flyer below, and you'll be on your way to a life-impacting experience.