I Married a Monster in the Name of Wife

Good morning great people, it’s another beautiful day, and it’s the 8^th day of December and we just have a little over 2weeks to Christmas and I am hopeful and excited in anticipation of the beautiful Christmas gift that the Lord is making ready for me. I guess that’s what you call faith. So whatever it is you are believing God for, don’t give up, keep believing we will exchange testimonies to the glory of God in Jesus name.

So today I will share another story; I had promised to round off the year on this blog with storytelling and I hope I am trying hard to make good my promise.

It’s always easy to have the wife look like the victim in an abusive relationship, but that is not 100% true for all cases. So we will take a look at a situation where the husband feels like he is the victim and the one on the receiving end of the problem in his marriage.

Issue

I was married to my ex-wife for just about 8months; we dated for 4years before getting married and I had assumed she was a very good wife material. She appeared humble and submissive to me then. When I took her to my parents she put up the best of character and we all took to her so easily. She was a good friend to my mother and my sisters adored her. But barely a month after we got married she did a 360^o character change on me. She was always nagging and she became abusive. She would not cook, nor take care of the house. About a month into our marriage, she traveled out of the country to have our baby, but the situation degenerated badly after she returned to the point of her accusing me of stealing her jewelries and bringing female friends home. She would insult my parents anytime my mother tried to talk to her or calm her down. I could absorb all of her excesses, but I will not take my wife calling me a thief or an adulterer, these are demeaning to my person. I must confess that I hit her twice when she pushed me to the wall; an action which I regretted so badly, but when I realized that she was heading towards destroying my life and I didn’t want to be seen as a wife beater, in anger I sent her out of my house; another action which I regret. But even though I feel bad for sending her packing, I don’t think I want her back in my life either. She does not appear remorseful in anyway and her parents don’t seem to see anything wrong with her attitude.

Response

In all of these narration I have not read where prayers where offered. You didn’t pray before you chose your wife, neither did you pray even in the course of the short marriage between the two of you. And just like the story of Jacob that was shared yesterday, when you marry a woman without the approval of God, issues like this are not farfetched. People marry without praying and the marriage still works might be your argument, but try check out how much love they share compared to how much they have to endure and tolerate about each other while putting up the appearance that all is well in public view when in truth all is not near well, and it’s just a very little while before the bubble bust and we see the true state of affairs between the couple. People have mastered the act of pretense for various reasons, so it's important you don't get fooled. 

Like I have always shared, you can’t change your wife in any way; you can only change yourself and commit that which you cannot change into the hands of God. I know this will be a tough one, but irrespective of what she is doing, try to love your wife. If you can, make efforts to bring her back home and show her love. The only way to quench hatred is through love. Plenty of love is what you need in this matter. The more the hatred you have to deal with, the more the love you require to destroy it. You need to possess love in excess of the hatred that your wife carries for you to succeed in destroying the hatred in her.

Like I said earlier, this may appear tough so you need to pray for grace. If you find it hard to love then, ask the Lord to love through you, He has more love than you can ever imagine requiring. Then you need to pray for your wife that the Lord will bring about the necessary changes in her and make her the suitable helper for your life as the Lord has designed it to be at the beginning. The Lord will dig out all the good treasure he has placed in the life of your wife for you. When you continue at this and you don’t give up, you will reap the reward of your endurance and hope because whatever you commit into the hands of God is settled for ever.

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Jacob, Leah & Rachel

Good morning people, I pray you are having a very glorious morning? By the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ it will be a very glorious day and a very glorious week for us all. I don’t know about you, I am trusting God for a last minute miracle in my life and because He is a faithful God I know that my expectations in Him shall not be cut short.

In my post yesterday I shared the story of a woman whose husband married a second wife while leaving his responsibility to his family unattended to, that post ignited a thought in my spirit and I feel compelled to share the story of Jacob, Leah and Rachel. I had once shared a post on this when we were looking at the marriages in Bible but still I believe the Lord wants me to discuss it again.

Genesis 29:15 through to the end of Genesis 35 gives us details about Jacobs family and work life, but what I want us to focus on is his marital life. The Bible tells us how Jacob labored for 7years in order to marry Rachel but was given Leah as his wife instead. First, what readily comes to mind is that Jacob was swindled or cheated off the deal, but have we considered the fact that Leah was probably God’s choice of wife for Jacob and not Rachel?

The Bible tells us tells us in Genesis 29:31 that when God saw that Leah was not loved, He opened her womb and she became fruitful. I am almost convinced that God was more interested in the marriage of Jacob and Leah far more than that of Rachel. The Lord who searches the secrets thought of the heart of men saw that Leah had a lot of good packaged in her, ideal for the support that Jacob needed in his life than what Rachel had stored up in her heart. No wonder Leah was the wife of Jacob’s youth.

Apart from the fact that Leah was not as beautiful as her sister Rachel as the Bible said she had weak eyes, she was of a better character than her younger sister. Nothing was said wrong of Leah’s personality other than the fact that she had weak eyes. So will you blame God for choosing Leah as His favored wife for Jacob over Rachel? Obviously the favor of God for Jacob resided more in Leah than in Rachel. Jacob was swept away by physical beauty, but God honored the inner beauty of Leah, the beauty of a beautiful spirit and character.

Before I begin to sound judgmental about Rachel, let’s take a look at her character. Genesis 30:1 tells us that “When Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children, she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, ‘Give me children, or I’ll die!’” So from here we can conclude that Rachel has a jealous personality and she was a nagging wife. The Bible didn’t tell us that Rachel prayed to God about her predicament, but rather she nagged her husband. Yet she was beautiful, loved and the preferred of the two wives.

Genesis 30:7-8 reads, “Rachel’s servant Bilhah conceived again and bore Jacob a second son. Then Rachel said, ‘I have had a great struggle with my sister, and I have won.’ So she named him Naphtali.” So we see that Rachel had developed an unhealthy rivalry with her sister. She has stopped seeing Leah as her sister but as a competitor and a rival; she was envious of her own flesh and blood, her sister. This is another negative trait of Rachel.

Genesis 31:32 says, “But if you find anyone who has your gods, he shall not live. In the presence of our relatives, see for yourself whether there is anything of yours here with me; and if so take it.’ Now Jacob did not know that Rachel had stolen the gods.” Again we see another negative character that Rachel possessed; she was a thief. You can imagine that the beautiful wife that Jacob adored with all his heart and worked fourteen years to marry being a thief who stole gods from her father’s house. No one would have been able to tell that Rachel had the capacity to steal but the Lord. Jacob was a man whom God loved and set apart right from when he was in his mother’s womb, he didn’t deserve to be married to a thief. No wonder God gave him Leah as wife instead. If only Jacob had prayed before falling in love.

Genesis 31:34-35

Now Rachel had taken the household gods and put them inside her camel’s saddle and was sitting on them. Laban searched through everything in the tent but found nothing.

Rachel said to her father, “Don’t be angry, my lord, that I cannot stand up in your presence; I am having my period.” So he searched but could not find the household gods.  

Rachel did not just steal the household gods, she lied about her period, she deceived her father and her husband. And this is the beautifully formed lady that blessed Jacob fell in love with. Now these are the negativity in the life of Rachel that made God prefer Leah to her as wife to His beloved Jacob. So we see the importance of prayers before marriage. In Jacob’s ignorance God had blessed him with a wife that would complement him and support him in the fulfillment of his destiny, yet he refused to accept and love that which the Lord has blessed him with because she was not attractive to his eyes. If only he had considered the inner beauty and grabbed it with gratitude while making effort to polish the outer beauty to his taste.

A lot of men are daily making the same mistake as Jacob. They despise God’s precious blessing for the them in the person of their wives and then run after beautifully bodied women with ugly characters and in so doing ruin completely their destiny. If the Lord did not prevent you from marrying that so-called ugly woman, it’s because He knows what she has inside of her and if only you can work with the Lord and seek his face, He will bring out the very best in your wife and she will become more than what you wish for. She will be beautiful inside out.

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Discussing Real Life Issues 3

Good morning very special people of God, thanking my God as always for another glorious day and another day to impact a marriage with the truth of the word of God. Doing these has been very fulfilling yet challenging but as long as the Lord is on the throne He is not relenting until His will and purpose is fulfilled in our marriages. You will agree with me that when the home front is at peace there is health in every other area of our lives. And because God’s will for us is of good and not evil, He will not sit quiet and watch the lives of His loved ones destroyed.

So today we take another practical life issue and learn from the issues that people have faced in marriage so we don’t make mistakes and when we find ourselves in similar situations, we can apply what we have learned to our own situations too.

Issue

I have been married for some time now and I must confess that I don't know if what I have is really a marriage or a co-habitation. I have been a faithful wife and I have been true to my God and my husband even though he hardly takes responsibility for anything at all in the house. I have not held anything against him and I have tried to be as submissive as I should be. But not too long ago, I discovered that my husband has married another wife and has rented an apartment for her elsewhere and they now live as husband and wife. So all the money he has not spending at home on his children, he is spending much more on his new wife. I had begged him for the children’s school fees which he pleaded that he could not pay because he didn’t have money at that time and that I should help him find a means of borrowing the money that he’ll pay back as soon as some of his allowances are paid in his office. I obediently did as I was told and after a couple of months without getting a word from him regarding the repayment of the loan, I went behind him to inquire from some of his colleagues about the payment of their allowances only to be told that they had long been paid their allowances. Obviously he has collected the money to spend elsewhere leaving me not only to cater for the children, but also to offset a loan that I didn’t intend to take because their was no means of repayment as I am just a teacher with very low income. I need help.

Response

To tell you that your emotions have been bruised and battered by a man who is suppose to care for you and love you with all of his heart is to say the least. But I can tell based on the truth of the word of God that the story does not end there if you don’t give up on that marriage. You remember the story of Abraham, Sarah and Hagai in Genesis 16, the beautiful thing about that story for me that Sarah had the last laugh in the matter. And till this very age, God recognized only Isaac, the child of Sarah as Abraham’s only child even though he had other children. And so would you have the last laugh in Jesus name.

Despite the pain and hurt you feel, the consolation I want you to hold on to is the fact that you are the only wife God recognizes in the life of your husband. You still hold the treasure pot of his life, you are still God’s divine helper for him and you are God’s favor for his life.

I will beg you not to take any hasty decision so as not to miss out on God's best for you. Do not contemplate a divorce; two wrongs never make a right. It's tough I know, but you have God on your side and that is bigger and better than anything you can wish for. 

Malachi 2:13-14

Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or accept them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.

This passage is the reason why you need to put your mind to rest because God has your situation in control, and believe me that no matter what the situation looks like at the moment you will have the last and best laugh. He will fight for you and all you need to do is just hold your peace and relax. Your husband will return home into your arms where he belongs and God will ensure that happens.

You mentioned that you have been true to God and your husband, well I will encourage you to continue to be true to God and your husband and in due course the situation will return back to the way it should be. On the issue of finances, hold on to God, He will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus. You will never lack. Don’t let anxiety and fear take your focus away from Jesus. In due season, God will make all things beautiful and you will smile again. 

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Discussing Real Life Issues in Marriage 2

Good afternoon great people, it’s another new week and a glorious time to give God all the praise. I am positive that we had a wonderful weekend, but by the grace of the living God, we will have a more wonderful week in Jesus name.

Today I am sharing one of the stories from the book “Marriage: God’s Rules of Engagement.” It’s a very impactful book written by me and it has made a great impact in the lives of many. This story is a true life story and I trust the Lord that you will not just enjoy the story, but it will make a positive impact on your life and marriage to the glory of God.

Issue

I am a born-again Christian and I love the Lord and serve Him with all my heart. I prayed hard for a husband and I was glad when the Lord led me to another born-again child of His to marry. I actually thought my husband was born-again because we meet in church and he was a dedicated worker in the church like I was and he showed to me that he was a born-again Christian. I prayed hard before getting married in order to be sure that I had the consent of God on my decision and I didn’t get any rebuke from God on my choice, neither did I hear His voice telling me that I was making a wrong choice. But just after getting married I discovered that my husband is gay. In the two years that we have been married, not once have we come together as a normal husband and wife should; no sexual relationship has happened between us. My husband has not attempted to touch me once. I am so confused and wondering why the Lord would lead me to such a man? Is it that the Lord spoke to me and I didn’t sense it or that the Lord is not mindful of me in any way? Currently I am beginning to contemplate divorce as I can't imagine being married to such a man as the one I am presently living with.

Response

My darling sister, I bless God for your life and you can be sure that you are not in this situation alone. God will not lead you anywhere His presence will not go with you to, so you can be sure that you are not in this situation alone. I also want you to understand that your purpose in marriage is to be a helper and a suitable helper in fact. And God didn’t not instruct us on the specific areas of the life of the man where his wife is required to help, so in every area where help is needed in the life of the man that God has given to you as husband, you are still the suitable helper fitting for the occasion. Without any doubt whatsoever, your husband needs help and he needs big help and you are the God provided suitable helper for him. Understand that the bigger the issue you are assigned to resolve, the bigger the capacity in you to resolve it. God knows what He built in you and He knows that based on what you have inside of you, you are capable to handle the situation you are faced with and about to run away from. You see yourself as unable, but God sees you as more than able because He alone knows what He deposited in you and what you are capable of handling. You are more than you think you because God will not tempt you more than you can bear.

Despite your husband’s many issues, vices and sins, you need to treat him like the man that he should be and start to pray for him. Your actions and prayers have power in them more than you think or know.

In my last post I made mention of the unseen factor in the marital challenges that we face from time to time. You need to begin to seek the face of God for Him to reveal to you the unseen factor behind this challenge that you are facing and begin to deal with these unseen factors immediately. Whatever are the unseen forces behind your husband being gay needs powerful forces to overthrow and destroy, and because you are God’s assigned helper in his life and you are a child of God with the power of God in you with which you are able to unseat the devil ruling over the affairs of your husband’s life and destroy his throne forever, you need to start praying hard and exercise the authority you have in Christ to pull down strongholds and demolish evil altars in the life of your husband.

From your judgment, who else can take up this challenge and undo the hand of evil in the life of your husband except you who have walked with God, loved the Lord and have the power of God heavy on your life to do exploit. God is sending you on assignment that only His trusted vessels can handle and I respect you because you are one of God’s trusted vessels. So get to work my darling sister and know that the Lord is with you. You will triumph in victory in Jesus name.

Don’t let the devil rub you clean by feeding you with lies that your problem cannot be resolved or your spouse cannot change. God is yet to create a man He cannot handle or remold. There is no such problem that can pose impossible for God if only you are willing and able to walk and work with Him; listen to His instructions and run in the direction He leads. Your problem/s will only last as long as you permit and the resolution that leads to a happy ending without committing any sin by disobeying God’s instruction for your life is very much attainable. Divorce is not the Godly approach to resolving marital challenges. Visit us at www.thewordthatsuits.com and let us talk it over with God together. If you are willing to obey, you will eat the good of the land.  

Dealing With the Unseen Factor in the Challenges of Your Marriage

Hello wonderful people of God, I am positive we are all doing great. It’s been a busy weekend for me, but I believe you are able to have a restful one. Its Sunday and its worship day, so please, let’s not forget to give God all the praises that He deserves. You just can’t begin to fathom all the battles He has fought and won on your behalf that you just don’t know.

I wanted to share another story and make it story time till the end of the year but I will just chip in this one and then continue with my stories in my next post. So today I want to ask you this question; “what do you make of the challenges you face in marriage.” Do you take them on face value or you look deep into the matter and read between the lines of the situation.

A young lady was separated from her husband, as a matter of fact, the husband relocated to another city and instructed his lawyers to evacuate his wife and children from his house and find a tenant to occupy the house. After several years he is still coming back to claim custody of the children that he doesn’t know how they have been surviving after several years that he has ejected them from his house and life.

From what I have gathered, this young mother is on the quiet side and very unassuming. She is not extravagant, and she is very hardworking. Her children are her main focus and she is putting all her energy and resources in bringing up these children of hers.

It is not wrong at all for this woman to feel very hurt by what marriage has yielded for her, there is nothing that she could have done that would warrant her husband throwing her and her children into the cold night. No right thinking man should be found doing such a thing. But there is another side of the story that I want us to begin to consider.

Hebrews 11:3 says, “By faith we understand that the universe was formed at God’s command, so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible, and then 2 Corinthians 4:18a says “So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen.” The story I just shared about the young mother seem very pathetic and looking at the situation from face value all we can see is a callous husband who has no conscience or any form of love for his family, but there is the unseen factor that needs to be put into consideration and needs so much focus.

If we consider the trials of Job in the book of Job 1&2, Job never knew there was a conversion and in fact a negotiation on his life between God and satan in heaven. All he saw was the calamities that were befalling him on all sides. So our challenges in lives require that we consider the unseen factor. We need seek the face of God to know the unseen negotiations that has birth what we are experiencing. Was there a negotiation over our lives in heaven just like the case of Job that is causing us to experience what we are experiencing, or is the devil just trying to mess up with us. These are factors that we always need to consider.

I know that sometimes our actions or inaction birth trouble for us in marriage but what of when you seem to be doing everything right, and still this huge challenge fall on your laps. Then we need to consider the unseen factor. You need to know that rather than let the devil laugh God to scorn over your life and situation, you’d rather put him to shame.

In the case of this lady I don’t know what is the husband’s reason for his mean and callous actions towards his wife and children, but if this woman possesses the quiet spirit that I have been told she possesses, then she needs to consider the unseen factor. There must be some unseen forces at work in her marriage that needs to be dealt with on the altar of prayer, when her spirit is constantly connecting with the Spirit of God like in the case of Daniel. This is not the time to give up on the marriage; this is not the time to focus on her husband; but this is the time to wage war in the spiritual realm against any unseen forces ruffling her marriage, and take back all that the devil has stolen from her. If she continues and does not stop it won’t be long for her to start to see the result of what she is doing in the unseen realm manifest physically in the life of her husband.

Not too long ago I had a challenge in my marriage and I was just smiling at separation with my husband and because I was so very hurt I had resolved to leave. But then I prayed and I kept praying, I didn’t hear the voice of God and the situation was looking like it wouldn't improve and all that kept screaming in my brain were those things that were hurting me. Then I called my mum to offload my heart to her but she didn’t pick my call. So I called my pastor and he also didn’t pick my call. Sincerely I had resolved that maybe this was just God telling me to leave. I prayed for a sign but got none and while on the verge of concluding on my resolve, I called a friend. And this friend asked me one question, he said, “What work has God given you to do that you have been doing diligently?” I answered him that I write about marriages, and then he asked, “Are you making an impact in the lives of people by what you are doing?” I answered “yes”, because I get feedbacks and responses from a lot of people.

Then he told me that because you are disturbing the camp of satan, he will disturb you too. He will attack you in every way he can so that you are not settled enough do disturb him. He is ruffling your nest. That for me was the unseen factor behind my challenge. As soon as I realized this I smiled and my spirit was lifted. And with that I didn’t see my husband or what I think he has done to hurt me any longer. My battle was not with my husband, it was with satan the enemy and that was who I needed to tackle and bring down.

I don’t know how many people are in this category or share this experience, but believe me not all these challenges are to be handled from the face value; it goes deeper than what you see to what you are not seeing. The root cause of the problem is where we need to begin to deal with. When the root is properly dealt with, the stem, branches, leaves and flowers associated with your challenges will naturally fall off. May the Lord bless our homes in Jesus name.

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Discussing Some Real Life Issues in Marriage

Hello people, so we are on the 2^nd day of December and from all the new month greetings I have received so far, I can tell that we are all in the Christmas mood already. Again I woke up today feeling really grateful to the God that loves me so much to die for my sins, make me His child and grants me so many victories in life. I am don’t know how you feel now, but praising God is a must for us as children of God and not an option. You just can’t imagine how many battles the Lord has fought and won on your behalf that makes you among those alive today. So no matter what you are going through, God is still good to you. Just pick up the lessons from your challenges and continue the race. I am doing the same.

In our gist today I want to share a story of a challenge faced by a young lady in marriage, I trust the Lord that this story will bless a life and someone reading it will be able to apply the lessons there to their own situation and come out victorious in Jesus name.

Issue

I am suppose to be happily married or so I thought until my husband insisted that he wants to bring into our home the child he had outside of wedlock with another lady before we got married. Apparently, he was crazy in love with the mother of this child and they were suppose to get married but the lady’s family objected to their union and they had to go their separate ways but not before the lady got pregnant for him with a male child. Now about 10years later, my husband wants custody of the child who has been living with his mother’s sister. I really feel used knowing that if everything had worked out fine between my husband and this lady I will never be in the picture. I feel like an afterthought wife, like a second fiddle in the whole picture and now he wants to bring the fruit of his previous love affair into our home to worsen the whole thing. This boy will be a constant reminder of the love affair he once had with his mother. Another problem I have with all this is that I don’t know how to explain it to my own family. My parents will be very upset with this development. This is really eroded the peace and harmony in my family. I am doing all I can to stop my husband from bringing this boy into our home. Please what else can I do; I love my husband and I cherish my marriage but this strange boy is going to take all that away.

Response

My darling sister the first thing I want you to know and hold onto is that you are not a second best to your husband; you are the very best for him. Nothing could have stopped God from ensuring that your husband marries the other lady if she was God’s best for him, but God didn’t make it happen because He knows that He has packaged His favor for your husband inside of you and not the other lady. You are God’s best choice for your husband so never think less of yourself in that marriage.

Then going to the main issue of the child that was birth for your husband outside of wedlock; God said He has made you and your husband one in flesh and spirit, so you are no longer two but one. If God is then correct, you will agree with me that what belongs to your husband belongs to you. All of your husband’s assets, his cars, his houses and everything he owns belong to you. I can even say that you co-own his bank account because in an ideal situation you should be his next-of-kin and when he is not around all the monies in his account are given over to you. But you don’t just co-work his assets, you also co-own his liabilities, you are a partaker of his worries and challenges; the Bible says two are better than one. So the issue of this child is a joint issue. I won’t call it a problem but an issue. As long as you are one in flesh and spirit with your husband and this boy is your husband’s child, he automatically becomes your child and accepting him as your child gives you all the peace you long for and returns love and joy in your marriage more than you had before. Irrespective of who brought the boy to earth, the love and care that is shown to him determines who he sees and accepts as mother. So if you accept this boy as yours because he is your husband’s son and you show him all the love and care he can ever need in this world, then you become his mother. He then accepts you as his mother and loves you like a son should love his mother.

So you see why I will say that this is not a problem but just a mere issue. If you apply wisdom in handling it, you become better off at the end of the day.

Then you mentioned the problem of your parents; if you ask me, I will tell you that they have no say at all in this matter. It is your life and your marriage; the Bible tells us that a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and the two will become one flesh. So your mother and father and that of your husbands' have been left behind long ago after you got married to that man. You should love them and take care of them and their needs but not allow them any control over your marriage. When confused pray and consult your Bible; but the matters of your home is for you, your husband and your God to handle and resolve.

I believe from now on you will have a changed mindset and a renewed understanding of the situation in your marriage. I pray God’s guidance and peace into your life and marriage in Jesus name.

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Your Career & Your Marriage

Good morning God’s children, it’s the first day of the last month of the year 2016 and it’s just the grace of God that has kept us alive to this very day. I am so very grateful to my God that so far it has been His grace on my life and till the very end it will always be His grace. As we saw the beginning of this year we will see the end of it to the glory of God.

Today we will take a look at our marriage versus our career. Even though it is often preached that these two aspects of our lives are important and one should not disturb the other, we often discover that they do and there is now the need to set priorities on which should come first between the two.

The rich man who has everything going for him will place value on family and loved ones, while those that are less privileged and still struggling to make ends meet will place their priority on career and the pursuit of money, what an irony of life. We will always want what we don’t have. But let’s check this issue on the scale of the Bible and understand how God prioritized these issues for us.

In book Genesis before God made man, He had created everything that man would need for survival; He had planted the garden, put the food crops there to grow and even provided the rivers to water the plants. There was absolutely nothing that man needed that God had not provided for, so man was not created to struggle for what He would need to eat or wear; everything had been provided for. So all that man was to do on the land of the living was to take care of all that God had provided for him; then God instituted marriage and began a family. In Genesis 1:28 we read that God blessed them - the family He has created, and told them to be fruitful and increase in number and fill the earth and subdue it.

The pursuit of career was not on the focus of God when He was creating man; God was not interested in career when He thought up the idea of creating man. Personal pursuit sprang up after Adam fell in Genesis 3 and God made man to begin to toil the earth for food. No wonder Jesus taught us in Matthew 6:25-34 that we should not worry about what we will eat, drink or wear, but rather seek first the kingdom of God and it’s righteousness and all other things will be added unto us, because right from the beginning of creation God did create us to fend for ourselves. He created us and was fending for us and is still fending for us; all we need do is obey His instructions for our lives and trust him.

From what I understanding from the Bible, God holds your marriage more dear to Him than your career. He gave you talent to carry on the career but that which would complete you and make you excel in every endeavor or career you find yourself in is the man or woman God gave you to marry. For you to excel in your career, you need to have excelled well in your marriage. Your marriage is so important to God that he pays attention to it (Malachi 2:13-16). It is your successful marriage that produces the godly offspring that the Lord seeks that will increase in number and fill the earth and subdue it and then bring down the Kingdom of God here on earth as it is in heaven.

Whatever you succeed in achieving in your chosen field of endeavor and career, you have achieved it for yourself. Whatever money you make resides in your account. But whatever you achieve with you marriage you achieve for God, and the fruits of your marriage multiplies and grows into several generation of your descendants that you may never know. When your marriage is at peace, your life is settled and your career will flourish. But when your marriage is turbulent and unsettled, no matter the effort and energy you put into your career, the yields from it will always be far less than it should be, because two are not working as one, you are struggling alone.

I agree that a man would need to meet the financial needs of the home and the wife would need to financially support her husband but you should not do it at the detriment of your marriage and family. Your career can go extinct and money acquired can fade away from your family will always remain. Think about it.

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