The Word That Suits: The Making of a Life Partner

Genesis 2:18

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.

The first thing to note very carefully is that the wife is a suitable help made by God. Far above emotions, the wife is suppose to be a fitting support for the man. So if I am permitted to say this, if any man goes ahead to get married by reason of emotions, without first seeking the face of God to provide for him that suitable support needed for his life’s assignment, such a man is acting in error.

One other very important thing to note is the declaration of God in the second part of the passage above. It says, “I will make a helper suitable for him.” If we look at this statement critically, we will realize that it is God Himself who is making the suitable helper for the man and not the man's parent or the man himself going in search of a help for himself.

In order to have a marriage free from unnecessary troubles, you need to first seek the face of God, and be sure that indeed this woman or man that you are getting married to is God's choice for you. You need to be very certain that this is the help or the ordained authority that God has made for you. As a man, at whatever age you are now, whether old or young, you need to start to pray to God to bring you a help suitable for your life's journey when the time is right. The help that will go along with you on your life's journey and help fulfill your destiny and the assignment of God on your life. Parents are to begin to pray and hand over this matter to God right from their children's tender age, as no parent is capable of making a suitable help for their child. This assignment can only be adequately handled by God alone.

Genesis 24:1-9, 12

Abraham was now old and well advanced in years, and the Lord had blessed him in every way. He said to the chief servant in his household, the one in charge of all that he had, “Put your hand under my thigh. I want you to swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and the God of the earth, that you

will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I am living, but you will go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son Isaac.”

The servant asked him, “What if the woman is unwilling to come back with me to this land? Shall I then take your son back to the country you came from?”

“Make sure that you do not take my son back there,” Abraham said. “The Lord, the God of heaven, who brought me out of my father's household and my native land and who spoke to me and promised me on oath, saying, 'To your offspring I will give this land' he will send his angel before you so that you can get a wife for my son from there. If the woman is unwilling to come back with you, then you will be released from this oath of mine. Only do not take my son back there.” So the servant put his hand under the thigh of his master Abraham and swore an oath to him concerning this matter.

Then he prayed, “O Lord, God of my master Abraham, give me success today, and show kindness to my master Abraham.

This passage, tells the story of how Abraham got a wife for his son Isaac. From what we have read in this passage, there are a lot of lessons to learn, but one lesson I want us to hold unto very dearly is the statement Abraham made in verse 7 of the passage. He said “The Lord the God of heaven, who brought me out of my father's household and my native land and who spoke to me and promised me on oath, saying, 'To your offspring I will give this land' he will send his angel before you so that you can get a wife for my son from there.”

Abraham very well understood that when it comes to the issue of making a suitable helper, it was a matter delegated to God alone. It was only God that was capable of making a suitable helper for Isaac and not the chief servant. And also, the chief servant appreciated the enormity of the errand he had been sent, he knew that left alone he could not carry out the task successfully and so on arrival at his destination he had to pray. He needed God to make a choice for Isaac, and he asked for a sign to be able to identify that suitable helper whom the Lord had made for his master's son.

Now we need to understand that it is only God, the Alpha and Omega, the Beginning and End of all things, that knows the various needs of a man's life, He knows the assignment the man has to fulfill, and so the help that will fit in to meet the needs of each man has to be made by Him. He knows the future, He is mindful of the upcoming challenges, and so it is of great importance that the help needed to meet up with the struggles and challenges of the future comes directly from Him.

If you are at that stage of your life when you think you have met a desirable partner with whom you wish to spend the rest of your life, you need to first take the matter to God and seek Him and so as to be sure that the person in whom you have invested your desire is that suitable help that God has made to fit in and help establish His purpose for your life.

Proverb 19:14 says “Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.” Now the Bible has clearly shown us that the assignment of making a suitable help for a man in the person of his wife can only be carried out by God and nobody else. Not you as the one needing the wife nor your parents, but the Lord.

And this also applies to the woman. You cannot on your own, either by reason of emotions or any other reason whatsoever get engaged or be married to a man without allowing God lead you to the appropriate man in whom your life will find fulfillment. That right man to whom your destiny has been tied. You need to be sure that you have obtained the consent of your Creator, before signing that marriage certificate, so that when the storms begin, and the tides starts to blow, you can be sure God is mindful of you and He has your back. You are to be sure that the man you want to journey with is the appropriate, God ordained authority over your life and in him your destiny will find fulfillment.

To read more of my articles, please visit http://www.thewordthatsuits.com/products you will be blessed that you did.

You can get copies of my books in print and kindle format on amazon website via the provided links. I assure you of a refreshing knowledge of God's word as you get copies for yourself and loved ones. I am excited to inform you that for any of the under-listed books you buy on amazon website you get a free kindle copy of the same book, so hurry and get both the print copy and kindle copy just at the price of one.