How She Erased Infidelity from Her Marriage for Good

I want to welcome you all to another week and I bless God because I am positive that it will be a very productive week in Jesus name.

I am not sure if I have shared this story before, but I wish to share it again. And if this is the first time of it coming on this blog, I am positive this story will bless a soul and heal a marriage in Jesus name.

There is this lady who had been married for over 10yrs, and her marriage had been characterized by various challenges from very frequent quarrels and arguments to absolute lack of love in the marriage. On face value, everyone who sees these couples will conclude that all was well between them, but within them it was just a very thin line that held the marriage together. It was a marriage of no trust, no love, no care, no respect and every good thing that makes a beautiful home was lacking in this one. But of all the problems that had overwhelmed this marriage, the big of them all was infidelity. The husband had transferred all the love he should have invested in his wife and children on strange women outside his marriage.

He would smile and play with strange women, exchange love messages to them, care for their feelings and well-being, but for his wife, it was constant war. Nothing she did seemed good enough and whenever she complained, it was another round of insults and quarrels.

In the middle of all her marital woes, this wife developed a relationship with God and she began to pray. She also resolved to reading and her Bible and in no time began to unfold the secret to a successful marriage. She learned to submit to her husband; and you will agree with me that submission to a husband who loves and cares for you is quite easy, but when you have to submit to a husband who disdains you, it’s a very big challenge. She literarily had to depend on God to help her through with submitting to her mean husband.

Her marriage began to improve as she continued to lean on God to submit to her husband. She had to learn submission for about two years before her marriage started having the slightest feel of a normal marriage. But there still remained the issue of strange women in the life of her husband which she dears not mention or the peace that had begun to find its way into her marriage would fade away again. So in tears she began to pray.

Anytime she had an argument with her husband over the issue of the strange women in his life and her husband responded harshly she would cry to God. And on one occasion she had argued with her husband over the issue of a particular female friend of his of which she felt the friendship between him and the lady was a little closer than normal. After her husband left the house, she laid on her bed and again began to cry and pray. On this one occasion the Lord visited her and promised her that, that will be the last time she would ever have to cry over the infidelity of her husband.

Soon after that, she noticed that her husband was always home early and was becoming very loving towards her and their children. He wouldn’t honor his friend’s invitation for hang-outs and he would always just want to be close to his wife. The wife found this strange but she was enjoying what her marriage was turning out to be. She had totally forgotten about her prayers to God of months back and even forgotten God’s promise to her. All she knew was that her husband loved her much more than before, and she was enjoying every bit of it.

Then one night her husband made a confession to her that he had a one-fight sex affair with a woman he met for the first time several months ago. Strangely though, the wife was not offended, neither was she troubled. She simply asked her husband if he wore a protective rubber while at it and when he answered in the affirmative, she also asked if he was still seeing the lady after the one-night event and he responded that he never saw the lady again after that night. That was all that was said on the issue and the both them continued their marriage as though nothing ever happened.

The calmness of the wife over this confession initially made the husband sober and scared. He had expected a worse reaction but when he waited a couple of days and no issue was raised on the matter again by the wife, that made him love and respect her the more. And gradually the husband began to adore his wife; everyday was a new and beautiful day in their marriage.

After months, the husband called the wife and told her he had more confessions to make. Still the wife was calm and asked what it was. The husband told her he didn’t reveal the whole truth in his first confession and that in truth the rubber he wore in the course of the intercourse busted and it was as though he didn’t use any protection.

Still being calm, the wife asked if the lady in question was pregnant for him, but he responded to the negative and said he had not seen or heard from her since the incident happened. It was then that the wife realized that her husband was afraid that he might have contacted some deadly diseases from his one night show and the fear of the possibility of that had made him stay away from strange women. For months the husband could not bring himself to go for a medical check-up for fear of what the result would be and still the wife loved him like nothing ever happened. The thought of the possibility of dying had humbled him and made him change from his wayward ways.

After a while the husband went for a comprehensive medical check-up and was given a clean bill. But that served as a lesson for him and ever since then he was faithful to his wife alone. The calmness and support this wife gave to her husband during the period of his self-torture from his wayward life style made him love and respect her like he had never before. And since then he adored his wife like he should. 

One afternoon, while the wife was cleaning the house, she heard the voice of God speak to her reminding her of God’s promise to erase infidelity in her marriage for good. She laughed within her and praised God knowing that there was nothing she did or could have done that would have made her husband change from his sinful ways safe of God’s intervention. It was only God that could put the fear of sin of adultery in his life and sustain it there. Today their marriage is at peace and there is so much love between them like it had never existed before.

I would say that it takes great grace to do what this wife did and endure what she endured. But God’s grace is available to us all if we are willing to hand our issues over to God and leave it dear. God will not just solve the problem, He will also will also give you the calmness of spirit to sustain you while He takes care of the issue. It’s just like having the doctor administer anesthetics on a patient to calm the patient and ease the pain while he carries out a surgery on the patient to cure an ailment. This is what God is all about when we let Him take care of our issues for us. It always does not have to end in a divorce and your marriage was never designed to break. It just needs you to connect with God and it will all be sorted out if you'll let go and let God. 

I just love stories like this, and I hope you have learned from it. 

She is Really Angry

Hello beautiful people, I believe we all had a great week and looking forward to a restful weekend and by the special grace of God we will all have a beautiful weekend to the glory of God.

So we will be looking at a real life issue on marriage, a story that I believe we will be able to learn a thing or two from. This is a story that is just as real as you and I and so we can relate to it.

Issue

I have been married for about 5yrs, and it has been a mixed experience for me. I won’t say that I am a happily married woman, but at least I have a good job as a hairdresser and that keeps me busy and distracted from my marriage issues. I spend the large chunk of my time in my hairdressing salon and I am there with my children so that keeps me from the misery of my husband coming home late or not paying attention to me as his wife. But what I won’t tolerate is my husband relegating his financial responsibility to me because he thinks I have money to bear the burden. He won’t pay the children’s school fees because he knows that if he doesn't, I will pay up the fees to avoid embarrassment, and now he is avoiding paying for the remaining part of the required school wears for the children because he feels also that I will pay it. I have reminded him on the demand from the school to get the prescribed school uniform for the children on the set days that they need to wear these uniforms but he just keeps avoiding that discussion with the mindset that over time I will go and pay for those school wears for the children to avoid embarrassment as it's always the case. We have quarreled severally on this attitude of his but he just won't change. But on this particular school wear issue I have made up my mind that I won’t pay for the remaining set of uniforms for the children and will continue to wear the wrong set of uniforms for them to school unless their father does his responsibility and buy it for them. My husband works and makes money and I have no idea what he uses his money for if he can’t even take care of his own children’s need.

Response

I thank God that in His design for human kind every child has two parents. This is to ensure that the child has all the adequate care that he/she needs. So if a parent is failing in his/her responsibility, the other parent can fill in. In all, the child should have adequate care and support till he/she stops to be a child. Although I do not excuse what your husband is doing by not providing for his family, but two wrongs has never been known to make a right. And when you get to give God the report of your stewardship here on earth, your husband is not a good enough excuse for failing.

If you are not making enough or you genuinely don’t have to give for the upkeep of your children, that will be another issue entirely. But God who is mindful of your situation, and knows what lies ahead of you, has provided a way of escape by giving you work to do and enabling you to earn good income to sustain you while He handles the situation of your husband so that you don’t live in lack. What message are you then sending to God if you insist that you won’t take care of the needs of your children because it is your husband’s responsibility and you shouldn’t be the one handling his responsibility for him? Have you considered the fact that it could be that it’s because you have become the burden bearer in the home that the Lord is blessing you and prospering the works of your hands.

Deuteronomy 8:18 says, it is the Lord who gives us the ability to make wealth; it’s not your power nor your ability that has helped you this far, so honor God with what He has blessed your life with and take care of the children He has kept under your watch to care for without waiting on any one to do what God has blessed you to do. Your children do not have to suffer for the sins of their father.

The hard truth in this matter is that there is no amount of rebellion and fight that can make your husband own up to his responsibility as the breadwinner of his family unless the Lord touches his heart to do what he is suppose to do. Trying to force your husband to perform his responsibility might only destroy the peace of your marriage. If you have complained about his negligence to the financial needs of the home and he has not made any effort to adjust, then more complain will not make him change. If you’ve applied an approach and it has not yielded the desired result, then change your approach.

Since you have spoken to your husband and nothing has change, then cease to speak to him on the issue anymore and go on your knees. Fight this battle on your knees in prayers to God. Proverbs 26:2 says the heart of kings and princes are in the hands of the Lord, and like a water course He directs them as He wishes, this includes the heart of your husband. So what you can’t do, God can do and so please let Him.

The secret about this is that when your husband abandons his responsibility, then he is risking the fact that God will stop listening to his prayers (Malachi 2:13-14); and when God stops to hear his prayers, it’s just a matter of time for things to starts falling apart for him and I am sure you are not looking forward to that. The Bible says a man who does not provide for his family is worse than an unbeliever. And then we can ask ourselves, what has God got to do with an unbeliever; the prayers of a sinner is an abomination to God.

But when you join your husband in abandoning your responsibility of caring for your children, you are also as guilty as your husband. So you should not be surprised when God stops to listen to your prayers too. But by the special grace of God, the Lord will uphold you to do what is right before Him always in Jesus name. 

What Kind of Love do Your Have?

Judges 16:4-5

Some time later, he fell in love with a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah. The rulers of the Philistines went to her and said, “See if you can lure him into showing you the secret of his great strength and how we can overpower him so that we may tie him up and subdue him. Each one of us will give you eleven thousand shekels of silver.

The story of Samson and Delilah is a well-known story that does not need much introduction or analysis. Unlike what I always thought, Samson was not married to Delilah, he just loved her but the outcome of that illicit love brought about his undoing as a hero.

I have mentioned several times on this blog that though love is essential in every marriage union, but there is something that precedes love and that prayers and divine consultation with God before letting loose your love for anyone.

Just as love can be sweet, it can also be soar if and when it is awakened when it is not desired. It was love without God that made Milcah to be easily used by her father as a snare in the life of David to her own disadvantage. It was love that led Joseph to labor 14yrs for a thief, an idolater and a jealous woman as wife (Rachael) just because she was beautiful. And in the case of Samson it is also this same love that caused Samson to loose his glory and power. And all these examples are of love without God.

The right kind of love is the one that God makes happen; that kind of love that exist between Isaac and Rebekah and the kind of love that you find between Ruth and Boaz or that one that existed between Queen Esther and King Vashti, and I can go on citing examples of the kind of love with God’s hands on this.

So it’s important that you ask yourself; what is the kind of love that you are holding unto? Is it the kind of love with God at the center of it all, or is it the kind of love that was awakened when it is not desired, with self and lust as the center of it? If you don’t have God in the center of your love, then invite Him into it today if you are married before that love without God becomes the greatest mistake of your life. And if you are not married but in love, please put that love on hold and seek God first. Do this and you can be sure that the love He puts in your life will last forever because it is  from God. 

What is God's Purpose for Your Marriage

I wish to thank everyone for your messages of love and comments on my wedding anniversary post, I felt so honored and loved. Valentine’s day couldn’t have been better. You made my day and I say a very big AMEN to all the prayers. I receive them with joy and look forward to joyous celebrations with you too in Jesus name.

We will continue to search the word of God for insights on how to get our marriages to the next level. No matter how good your marriage is at the moment, it can always get better because the best is yet to come for you.

So we will be taking a look at the marriages of Samson. In truth I typed marriages, as we know from the Bible that Delilah was not the only wife that Samson married; and you will also discover that the Lord allowed Samson marry a Philistine. This is very unlike God allowing an Israelite marry from outside their own people.

Judges 14:1-4

Samson went down to Timnah and saw a young Philistine woman. When he returned, he said to his father and mother, “I have seen a Philistine woman in Timnah; now get her for me as my wife.”

His father and mother replied, “Isn’t there an acceptable woman among your relatives or among all our people? Must you go to the uncircumcised Philistines to get a wife?

But Samson said to his father, “Get her for me. She’s the right one for me.” (His parents did not know that this was from the Lord, who was seeking an occasion to confront the Philistines; for at that time they were ruling over Israel.)  

One thing I am almost too sure of is that a lot of people don’t even know the purpose of God for their marriage. All they know is that they are in love and they get married. Now if you don’t know the purpose of God for your marriage, how can you fulfill purpose with your marriage. When you don’t fulfill purpose with your marriage it becomes a miserable venture and there is nothing to look forward to in that marriage; no set goals to achieve. It's most likely going to be a continuous circle day in day out and after a while you get bored and want out.

Earlier I had mentioned that it was strange for God to allow an Israelite marry outside of his own people, but in this case Samson wasn’t just any Israelite, he was a Nazirite to the Lord. He was one set apart for God right from his mother’s womb and now he is going to marry an uncircumcised Philistine. No wonder his parents raised objections initially and save of his insistence I believe his parents will not consent to the union.

But what seem strange in the whole issue is that Samson’s decision was from the Lord and it was not just from the Lord alone, it was for a purpose. I am not sure if Samson knew that it was God pulling him in that direction for a purpose, but in truth he achieved the purpose for what the Lord intended to use that union to accomplish. Indeed he dealt a blow on the Philistines.

Another marriage that appeared strange to me, is the marriage of Hosea in the book of Hosea chapter 1. There the Lord asked Hosea to take an adulterous wife. Was God being mean to have requested this of Hosea? Definitely not; but this marriage was for a purpose. It was for an illustration of the love of God for the children of Israel. And indeed that marriage served it’s purpose.

A number of people miss it in marriage just because they don’t know the purpose why God put them in that marriage. Know today that your marriage is not solely for you. There is a mission for you to accomplish for God in that home and with that union. There is an assignment for you in the life of the person you are living with. Your marriage will be most fulfilled when you know God’s purpose for your marriage and run with it.

I asked God that big question of what He wanted of me in my marriage and what He wanted to accomplish with my marriage, when my marriage was in trouble and I wondered why the Lord will let me remain in that miserable dungeon called marriage. Today I know my purpose in marriage. Today I know that my marriage is not just for me but for as many as those whom the Lord leads to read what I write on this blog. How can I encourage others in marriage and tell them that with God everything will be fine, when my own marriage cannot model what I preach? So I am here as Mrs. Obasa in this marriage, not just for me, but also for you who read this always. And I am enjoying every bit of my marital life now. No divorce, no walking away; same man, same husband, same marriage but far better result because now I am doing it God’s way and not my way.

It’s time for you too to discover what the Lord intends to achieve with your marriage. It might not be the same as mine, but I believe it will be a glorious purpose. And when you run with that purpose you will have a fulfilled marriage that you will forever bless God for.

May the Lord bless our homes in Jesus name.  

Be My Val

In today’s post I want to please seek your permission and crave your indulgence to do something different from my regular posting. Today is my 13^th wedding anniversary and I really bless God for seeing me through thus far. It’s been a journey of learning and as much as I have learned I have shared with the people God on this platform through the inspiration of the Holy Spirit.

Today I want to launch on this platform the work I have been doing for God which are the books I have written through the inspiration of God. The Lord has helped me reach people in various parts of the world with His word through this platform, and there is no way I can gather all these people together in one room to introduce the work the Lord has achieved through me to them. So by the grace of God, I am launching the journey that started sometime in 2008 and which I have worked with God passionately to achieve on this platform. There are four of the books that are being launched today and I will introduce the rest on a later date.

My journey into writing for the Lord began in 2008. I lost my job in June 2005 and that began for me a journey that brought me to my knees. It was the most trying period of my life. My financial life was dead, my marriage was in trouble and everything that could possibly go wrong in my life went wrong. Every attempt to make income was a failure. In frustration I ran to God; I prayed and prayed and still nothing changed. Not even my marriage looked like it would stand the test of time. At that point in my life I contemplated suicide. And then looking at my little children and knowing the fact that suicide would not get me to heaven I dropped the idea. I told God that if I won’t get a job for a human, then I can at least work for Him, I had faith in God and I understood that the remuneration would be better than working for man.

From where I can’t explain or understand I developed interest in writing. First it started as a hobby and something to while away time with, and then it grew into writing to address issues that I felt wasn’t right in my environment and one of such issues was marriage. I became very close to my Bible and read it at every opportunity I  had. The word of God and obeying the instructions of God for my life with the help of the Holy Spirit and the grace of God alone healed my marriage. But the issue of finances was still pending.

As I began to walk with God and work for God my story began to change. I still do not earn income but I can tell you that the Lord has been more than good to me. Some of the products of work done for God are the books that I am launching on this platform now. These are books that have blessed my life personally and a few people who have had the chance of reading them have given the same feedback that they have been greatly blessed by them.

Because this is an online book launch and we are unable to have guests who have read the books come up to give a word of what they have enjoyed in the books, you have the blog posts that you have been reading to give you a glimpse of what the books can possibly contain. Below is just a little something about each book that is launched and all the links from which you can purchase copies.

The book "Marriage: God's Rules of Engagement" was written to bring people's attention back to God's initial plan and purpose for marriage. It's is a book that opens up our minds to God's established rules for marriage and helps us understand why God came up with these rules. In it you will understand and appreciate the rules and have clear knowledge of it application. When you know the rules and apply the rules, no force from the gates of hell can hold your marriage bound from prospering. This is a book that looks into every area of our marital life and how to make the best of it. It also contains real life issues that you can learn from. With this book you can be guaranteed of a beautiful marital experience if you hold on to God to follow His rules for your marriage. It's a 170pages book in easy to read bold print format that would make it's mark in your life for good. 

So today I want you to please pray on this book for me, bless it and launch it for me by purchasing copies from the online stores with links provided below. Get copies for your friends and families and tell as many people about it as you can. If God has used me to impact your life, then make my day by getting copies of this book for you and your loved ones. 

https://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Rules-Engagement-Aderinsola-Obasa/dp/9789238045/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1487069513&sr=1-1&keywords=marriage%3A+God%27s+Rules+of+Engagement

 https://www.createspace.com/4309313

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/300604

http://www.konga.com/rinmoe-books

Gleanings from the Throne of God was my very first assignment for God. It's a collection of ten life-changing short books in one book. From the very first page of this book to the last, there is something for you to hold on to and be blessed by. The Lord used me to write this book in the depth of great challenges in my life and writing this book was the light at the end of the tunnel for me. It was the revelation of God in my life that what I was going through was a challenge with an expiry date. Everyone who has had a chance of reading this book has given the feedback of blessings. 

In this book you will discover the secret of giving thanks in all circumstances and the power of praising God even when all is not well. You will appreciate the dangers of worry and why you need to re-engineer your pursuit in life. And yes, it reveals to us that there is nobody and nothing that God cannot use, so don't write yourself off. And strangely enough, you will learn about the advantages of suffering. Yes you read right, there is something valuable about suffering and that you will discover in this book. 

So there is a lot to look forward to in the book "Gleanings From The Throne of God," and its also to be launched by you today. It's a large print book with 171pages. So please pray on this book, bless it and launch it by purchasing copies from the links provided below. May the Lord bless you ever so richly as you uphold me in doing what pleases the Lord. 

https://www.amazon.com/Gleanings-Throne-God-Aderinsola-Obasa/dp/1490497455/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1487073065&sr=1-1&keywords=Gleanings+From+the+Throne+of+God

https://www.createspace.com/4330620

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/299094

http://www.konga.com/rinmoe-books

Psalm 127:3-5 says, Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate." This passage is so very true when you have taken your time to train your children in the way of the Lord. Just like children can be a blessing, so also can they be a curse and which ever way it's going to be, it's all up to you. Prophet Eli was a prophet of the Lord but he ended his life with a curse, not because he sinned against God, but because he didn't train his children right. 

We are in the evil days and the society is filled with products from our homes as parents. If the society is not working as it should then it's because you are not parenting as you should. When we seek the Kingdom of God here on earth as we always ask in the Lord's prayers (Matthew 6:9-13), then we should put our action into what our mouth professes. It's not up to God to bring His Kingdom here on earth because He Kingdom is already everywhere; it's up to us to live the Kingdom of God here on earth and teach our children to do the same. 

"Because the Lord Seeks Godly Offspring" is another book that I present to you for launching today. I crave your prayers on this book and I pray you bless it for me. I will also appreciate that you launch this book for me by purchasing copies of it from the links below. Don't just get copies for yourself, get for your friends and loved ones too. May the Lord bless you as you uphold me in doing what pleases the Lord. 

https://www.amazon.com/Because-Lord-Seeks-Godly-Offspring/dp/9789311818/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1487074437&sr=1-1&keywords=Because+the+Lord+Seeks+Godly+Offspring

https://www.createspace.com/4352171

http://www.konga.com/rinmoe-books

Sometimes the only link between us and our breakthrough is knowledge. When God's said my people perish for lack of knowledge, He sure knows what He is talking about. Although in Jeremiah 33:3 the Lord says, "Call on me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know," but do we really call on Him? And if we do, what do we ask Him to reveal to us? When you read the book Stressless Toil, you will discover that there is a seed of greatness locked down inside of you. It's not just the discovery of this seed that is important, but how to nurture this seed to grow is also important in order not to kill the seed of greatness in you. Ears have not heard and eyes are yet to see what the Lord has stored up in you and for you. When you seek God truly, you will find Him and when you obey and follow His instructions for your life you will live in abundance even in the midst of scarcity. 

And so I present the book "Stressless Toil" to you and yet another labor fulfilled in the vineyard of God. I seek your prayers and blessings on this book and I will appreciate that you launch this book by purchasing copies of the book from the links provided below. And may the Lord bless you ever so abundantly in Jesus name. 

https://www.amazon.com/Stressless-Toil-Aderinsola-Obasa/dp/978931180X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1487075723&sr=8-1&keywords=Stressless+Toil

https://www.createspace.com/4424550

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/300964

http://www.konga.com/rinmoe-books

I really wish to thank you for taking the time to go through this post and launch these books for me. May the Almighty God do great things in your life that you will always look back and bless Him for. May He honor you and yours as you have honored me today and bless all that you lay your hands to do in Jesus mighty name. 

Tomorrow we will continue with our regular post and by the grace of God we will live a continuous life of blessings. I crave your indulgence to have this books displayed on the blog or somewhere on the posts shared, may be once or twice a week so that those who wish to make purchases after today can access the links easily. God bless you all richly. Do have a fabulous Valentine celebration. 

The Rights of the First Wife

It’s a new week and a new reason to thank God. My last post triggered a thought in me which I want to share on today’s post. 

In a lot of countries in the western world, polygamy is not allowed by law. So a man cannot marry two wives at the same time. But my country Nigeria is a multi-religion country and because other religions that exist here permit multiple wives, there is no law prohibiting multiple marriages in one. And because there is no law prohibiting polygamy, even Christians are found in the mix. So today I will be sharing on the "Rights of the First Wife."

The fact that we have found a handful of polygamous marriages in the Bible, some so-called Christians have rested on that fact to bound themselves with the chains of polygamy and all the troubles and challenges that accompanies it. 

It’s important to understand and appreciate the fact that if a man's wife dies and he marries another wife, that is not polygamy and the new wife is the only wife in the marriage so there is no right of first wife at play in this situation. This is different from a divorce situation and its different from a polygamous setting. But if your husband married another wife while you are still alive, I am sure this is for you and I will encourage that you read this. 

Genesis 16 tells us the story of how Abraham became a polygamist when he took his wife’s maid servant and got her pregnant in the quest to have a child and so she became maid/wife by default. But in Genesis 17 God visited Abraham with a deep message which says, “Walk before me and be blameless.” These first few lines of God to Abraham are very deep in meaning, but that is not the focus for today. 

Genesis 17:15-22 carries my message for today’s post. In the course of God’s conversation with Abraham He mentioned Sarah and the promise of a child to her. Even in a good old age of 90yrs, Sarah will still give birth to the promise of God to Abraham fulfilled in flesh; she will give birth to a son to be named Isaac. As far as Abraham was concerned, Ishmael was good enough a son to be a bona fide blessing carrier, but that is not so with God. This is because a covenant child must come from a covenant wife. Sarah is the wife of Abraham’s youth, she is the favor bearer in the life of Abraham and as such she is the one to give birth to God’s favor in the life of Abraham. God said in Genesis 17:20-21 that sure He will answer Abraham’s request and bless Ishmael, but as for the establishment of His covenant with Abraham was concerned, that will only happen through Sarah. This tells us how detailed God can be with the issue of His laws. It wasn’t just about bringing His covenant to pass in the life of Abraham, but the channel of making it happen also mattered to God.

Genesis 29:15-35 tells us the story of how Jacob married two wives outside of his will. He loved and worked for Rachael, but he was handed Leah. If only Jacob had prayed, he might have understood why God let that happen, but silly Jacob was blinded by love and so he labored additional 7yrs for love not worth it. But one thing that didn’t pass my eye in that story is found in Genesis 29:31, and it reads, “When the Lord saw that Leah was not loved, he opened her womb, but Rachael was barren.” Did you notice the rights of the first wife playing out in this story too? The first wife who was the wife of Jacob’s youth was the wife favored by God. She was the one the Lord chose to open her womb. Could this be mere coincidence or it's God speaking to our hearts through these occurrences?

Malachi 2:13-14 which I always love to make reference to says, “Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or accept them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth.” From this passage God is not acting as a witness between the man and his wife, because there is the possibility of the man having many wives. But God is acting as a witness between the man and the wife of his youth; that very first wife that God blessed him with and gave him to marry, love and care for. 

If you are indeed the wife of your husband’s youth I congratulate you so very much. You might not be the one loved by your husband, but you are the one recognized by God. It is in you that God packaged all of the favor of your husband’s life (Proverbs 18:22). This is the right of the first wife being displayed here. 

I don’t mean to talk down on those outside of this category who happen to fall with the second wife category. We are all created by God and despite our shortfalls, challenges and circumstances surrounding our marital situation, we all are and will always be blessed by God. But from what we are discovering in the Bible there is a special accolade being given to the wife of his youth. There is a special recognition by God being bestowed on the wife of his youth; those who fall within the first wife category, and that is what this post is showing to us. 

Are you a wife of his youth and you feel like giving up and throwing in the towel just because your husband does not love you but loves another, understand that you are the one God reckons with as your husband's wife; you are the one God is favoring as your husband's wife; it is your seed that bear God’s covenant to your husband; you are God’s choice and He loves. The moment you give up on that marriage, the moment you give up on your husband, that is the moment you give up God’s best for you; that is the moment you give up your rights as the first wife, the wife of his youth. 

If you dear to persevere, you will dance like Sarah danced and those who laughed at you and said you were a fool for staying in that bondage called marriage, will rejoice with you and wish they were you. Those who mocked you will marvel at what God will make happen in your life and marriage. Remember, after all that Leah suffered, she eventually became the only wife after the death of Rachael. She had the last laugh. That and more is your testimony when you hold on to God’s love and fight on your knees for what God has blessed your life with which is your marriage. 

A Dead End Situation in Marriage

Hello God’s people, how are you doing and how are you enjoying the weekend? Because it’s a Saturday, I think we can make do with a marriage story. So today I will be sharing a marriage story that ended on a not-so-good note, but we can at least learn from the mistakes of others. I believe that’s what wisdom is all about.

There is this young loving and hardworking lady who got married to a young man she obviously was in love with. I am convinced she didn’t pray before making that decision and going by the history of the man she married he is not one to stay committed to a relationship for too long. For whatever reason he gets bored with women all too soon and without any reasonable reason he walks out of his relationships after about two years.

This lady had dated the guy for over a year when they eventually got married to the surprise and joy of the guy’s family as they were already worried and wearied by his continuous change of women in his life. But just two years into their marriage, this husband got tired of his wife and became adulterous again. Not too long after his initial flings, the husband moved out of the house he shared with his wife with the intention of getting married to another lady and left the wife all by herself . As a matter of fact he had promised marriage to the new lady in his life. His excuse and allegation was that his wife was cheating on him. 

This excuse angered his mother and with it he secured her sympathy and support to walk of his marriage, but not her approval to marry another woman. But after proper investigation a few months later, it was discovered that his allegation of his wife cheating on him was a lie and that the wife had been faithful to their marriage vows all along. Every effort to prevail on him to take his wife back fell on deaf hears; just like all other women in his life, he was bored with her.

This story happened about 8years ago and the husband had had similar encounter with about 3-4 other women after he left his wife; only that he never got to marry them. He is currently living with the 5^th woman after his marriage to the beautiful young lady. The wife on the other hand remains unmarried till date. You will agree with me that this is a very sad marriage story.

One important thing to always understand is that there is no perfect marriage and there will always be different challenges in life that when you hear of it, it appears as though it’s unheard of. But there is nothing new under the sun and there is nothing that life throws at you that God cannot handle.

Maybe or maybe not, the story would have been different if this lady had prayed before getting married to this guy, but even as at today I will say this is a sad marriage story that the Lord can turn around for good if you as the wife let Him.

My counsel to this wife is this: As long as you still have the breath of God in you, you still remain a wife to this man before God. I understand that you didn’t seek the face of God before getting married but the fact that God permitted the marriage and nothing happened to prevent the marriage from taking place tells me that your mistake is still within the ability of God to turn around for good. Your dead marriage is still a marriage that the Lord can and will breathe life into and it will come alive if only you let Him. God will only do this with your cooperation and so it requires you willingly inviting Him into the situation.

We learned in Matthew 19:8-9 that divorce is as a result of the hardness of man’s heart, but at the beginning, it was not so. As a child of God your marriage will only be dead because your heart is hard, divorce is not the will of God for you or your marriage and if there is still room for making amends I will encourage you to explore the option of reconciliation. Don't just give up on this man; if his soul is all that you can work with God to safe from hell I can assure you that the host of heaven will be proud of you. 

You will wonder how to reconcile with a man who is already living with another woman as wife. Well the hedge you have in this situation is that you are the wife of his youth; you are the legal wife that the Lord recognizes. Jacob was married to Leah and Rachael, yet it was Leah that got the support and favor of God. Abraham was married to Sarah and then took Haggai as maid/wife, yet it was on Sarah that the love and favor of God rested in that marriage. So your case is not different, no matter how many women claim to be your husband’s wife, you still remain the one who carries the favor of God in that marriage. You are the wife God recognizes.

You will have to fight for what is yours in prayers. From what I can deduce from this situation, this husband is a man who desperately needs help. If a man cannot settle down with a single woman and he gets bored with women so very easily that is a man who needs urgent help. Just like a violent husband is a man who needs help, and a financially broke husband is a man who needs help, so also is an adulterous husband a man who needs urgent help. And even though you are the one at the receiving end of his numerous problems, you are still the God appointed helper for his life. So you will begin to pray for him; you will wage war against any and every power that has infiltrated your husband’s life and has caused him to continually change women as though he were changing his clothing. You will pray your dead marriage back to life and prophesy to the deadness of your marriage to come alive. Then you will pay attention to the voice of God and anything the Lord tells you to do, do it. By the special grace of the living God, I await your testimony in Jesus name.