As a Married Person, Who is Your Confidant?

Good day my lovely friends, how has your day been? I believe you have had a very fulfilling day so far to the glory of God.

In today’s post we will be looking at a story in the Bible found in Judges 13. It's the story of a man and his wife; precisely the story of Samson’s parents. This is one couple that by the grace of God we will be learning a thing or two from their union. 

Judges 13:2-6

A certain man of Zorah named Manoah, from the clan of the Danites, had a wife who was sterile and remained childless. The angel of the Lord appeared to her and said, “You are sterile and remain childless, but you are going to conceive and have a son. Now see to it that you drink no wine or other fermented drink and that you do not eat anything unclean, because you will conceive and give birth to a son. No razor may be used on his head, because the boy is to be a Nazarite, set apart to God from birth, and he will begin the deliverance of Israel from the hands of the Philitines.”

Then the woman went to her husband and told him, “A man of God came to me. He looked like an angel of God, very handsome. I didn’t ask him where he came from, and he didn’t tell me his name. But he told me, ‘You will conceive and give birth to a son. Now then, drink no wine or other fermented drink and do not eat anything unclean, because the boy will be a Nazarite of God from birth until the day of his death.’”

I will like to title today’s message as: “As a married person, who is your confidant?” This is the first thing the Lord is dropping in my spirit concerning this couple as we begin to have a look at the marriage of Samson’s parents. 

The Bible tells us that Samson’s mother was sterile and so childless, but the Bible did not tell us that Samson’s father had another wife except his mother and so that automatically tells us that Samson’s father was also childless as the wife who was supposed to bear him children was sterile. 

Interestingly, this situation or challenge did not appear to affect their union as the Bible never said anything to imply, that though we don’t know for how long they both had to stick it out with each other and their common problem of childlessness. I will say that I have big respect for Manoah because he didn’t allow pressure from this situation make him loss faith in God or deny his wife. Though she was sterile, yet she was his wife and she remained his wife.

But the big beautiful lesson in this story is that when the angel of the Lord appeared to Manoah’s wife and gave all the instructions about the coming child, it was natural that she was consumed with joy and excitement. And the first person she ran to was her husband to share her joy and her excitement. For me it is beyond mere giving a report, it was a conveyance of joy as she narrated her tale to her husband. And that brings to mind one important factor in marriage. As a wife when you hear a good news or a miracle has just been dropped on your laps, who do you run to first to share your excitement with? This goes a long way to tell you who the most important person to you in your life is. 

It’s just natural to gravitate towards where your heart is. When you get a news that makes you leap for joy just as this one received by Manoah’s wife, the first person you want to share it with is the one closest to you. It’s a shame that not every married couple will run to their spouses as times such as this. Some will even share the news with their parents and siblings before their spouse gets a wing of what could be going on, yet they are supposed to be bone of same bone and flesh of same flesh. 

There are a number of husbands who do not have the time for the excitement in the lives of their wives, what excites her are trivial to them, over time the wife finds another soul-mate to share her joys with and that becomes the beginning of a broken marriage. 

But Manoah seem to be a special breed of husband, despite the challenge in the life of his wife, he still remains her soul-mate; the one she runs to in good times and bad times. The man she shares her joy with whenever she finds one. And this makes me doff my heart in respect of this sweet loving husband by the name of Manoah. 

I came across a man who ended up with an extra-marital affair as a skeleton in his cupboard owing to the fact that when he needs someone to talk to his wife is always too tired for him. He eventually found another friend who was always willing to lend an ear to him and listen to his bags of gist. She gives him advice when necessary, and so when he needs someone to talk to he turns to this lady and gradually the friendship grow beyond what he has bargained for. 

According to this man, the strange lady is in no way better than his wife at home, but she is there for him to pour his heart to whenever he needs to talk. She became his confidant and eventually his lover. Even though I do not exonerate this man of wrong doing, I will say that his wife shares in the blame. Her husband is her business; she should never get too tired for her business. 

I am sure a lot of us have read the story of the birth of Samson, but just like I have and so very surprised at the hidden lessons contained in the story. So tomorrow we will learn some more and pray that God opens up the truth of His word to us and reveal to us the hidden things therein to help us improve our marriages. But in the meantime take a moment to think, “Is your spouse really your soul-mate, someone you run to when your heart is heavy either with joy, sadness or worry?” If not, that is an indication that something is seriously wrong and needs attention and correction. May the Lord bless us as we strive to build our homes and marriage in preparation for a better life to the glory of God. 

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