Avoiding a Heartbreak

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We have come to the end of the marriage series and I pray and hope that valuable lessons have been learned in the course of the series. If you miss any part you can always search through the archives of the blog they are always there. But today we are looking at something slightly different, we are considering the pre-marriage life.

My 12year old daughter once asked me how I knew that it was her father that I was to marry, and how she would know and identify the man to marry when she is of age. First I answered her that I had prayed very well to God before making the decision about marriage, and secondly I married the man who showed me affection, care and concern for me the most. And on the question of how she would know who to marry when she is of age, I told her that we will pray to God to direct her to the right man and give her a sign by which she would know that indeed that man is God’s choice for her. But in the meantime, she needed to start preparing herself, in moral values, hard work, respect and care for others in anticipation for being a good wife to the God ordained man in future.

A couple of days ago my husband shared a video with me on facebook of a scene where a couple were about to wed and an ex-fiancée to the husband to be stormed the wedding ceremony in the exact wedding gown the bride to be wore. So in the drama that unfolded, there were two brides and one husband in front of the priest. Relatives and friends of the groom were seen trying to whisk the intruder away. It is not that a video clip such as this was posted on facebook that bothered me, but that in reality cases similar to this occur almost all the time with ladies either not forgiving or not wanting to let go of an ex-lover who they claim broke their heart. And this is also the case with some men too. It is said that a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage and now we will look at this issue of broken courtship from the eye of the Bible.

Genesis 2:21

So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

Song of Songs 2:7

Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

When God confirmed that it was not good for the man to be alone and thought it necessary for him to have a suitable helper, the Bible tells us that God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep and made a woman from the man and brought her to him. So it was not that the man went help hunting, rather God brought his suitable helper to him at the time when he needed her most. This is the first lesson I would appreciate those who seek a spouse in their lives to take note of.

When you see a woman on the street and you get attracted to her, did you first ask the Lord if she is the woman He created for you as a helper or you just began courtship on the basis of physical chemistry which is a factor of external features that have the capabilities of fading away in no time? If you have begun courting a lady on the basis of physical chemistry, it is obvious that you are bound to dump this lady when you come across another lady with whom you have a stronger physical attraction with. In no time at all you would have had physical attraction with so many ladies than you can possibly remember. There is now the possibilities that one of these ladies that you had physical attraction with and dumped is the lady God created for you as a helper, but because you didn’t pray and you lack sensitivity to the things of God you missed her in the crowd. Chances are then there that you end up with a woman less than good enough for you as a wife and then end up in a miserable marriage on the basis of lustful physical attraction and love that was awakened when it was not so desired.

It’s just so very obvious that a lady who starts to court a man after series of prayers and waiting on God for validation of what she is about to get herself into will not have any regrets on her choice. A good looking man can have the worst of attitude so it’s just so unwise to fall in love with a man just because he looks good. And a caring man can have the worst of secrets stored up in his can of worms that you begin to discover after you must sold your soul and future cheap to him because you just couldn’t see through his deception and lies. But with God you cannot get it wrong. If God led you into it, it because He is by your side leading you through it.

Solomon whom the Bible attests as the world wisest man of his days in his wisdom says, “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” Solomon didn’t just say that once, but he repeated it three times (Song of Songs 2:7, 3:5, 8:4) and that tells us how so important it is to take caution in matters of the heart. In my own words I will interpret Solomon’s words to mean “Look before you leap.” You do not just look, but you look well and pray hard before attempting any commitment inclined towards marriage.

As a man or a woman, marriage issue is a matter that you need to properly consult God on. The Bible says the heart of men is desperately wicked and it’s only God that can search out the deep thought of a man. Do not judge a man based on appearance, not even based on a very few set of character that you see him/her display. It’s just a matter of time before the hidden demon in him/her is brought to the surface. But God sees what you cannot see, and He knows what you don’t know. Rest your future in His hands and you are very save.