Feeling Neglected? 4

Hello people how are you doing? I trust the Lord that we are all doing great and we give all glory to God.

So today we continue in our Bible research on how to earn the love and attention of our spouses. I pray that the Lord has spoken to your hearts from the previous lessons we have learned and He will still speak to our hearts as we continue to learn.

Quite a number of times, I marvel at the insight of God; in truth we cannot match the wisdom of God in any way and when God tells the husbands that they should love their wives just in the manner in which Christ loves the church He sure knows what He is talking about.

As a woman, I can tell you for free that there is no better way to earn a woman’s attention, love, devotion, respect and even submission than to prayerfully love her. I will always add the word prayerfully because it's actually not your self-effort love that makes your wife the wife you desire or want her to be, but rather it is God who makes that woman the perfect woman for your life through the love that you show to her in obedience to God’s instruction for your life as a husband.

Ephesians 5:25-29 states God’s instruction to the husbands and begins with: “²⁵Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” When a man loves his wife because of what she has to offer, then the wife’s self-services becomes the reward of his love and the moment the wife changes in character the love ends because that which is fueling his love for her has gone dry.

But when a man loves his wife, not just because of the self-service that he derives from her but as a man obeying the command and instructions of God for his life as a husband, then come what may, he won’t stop loving his wife. Even when the wife misbehaves, the husband is quick to forgive her despite the hurt he feels. This unconditional love has the capability of filling the wife with guilt and make her come into repentance over her wrong actions and is also quick to seek forgiveness. This is when you hear people say that the marriage has been tried and tested but it is still standing because the fuel of love in the life of the husband in not found in the good deeds and actions of his wife, but is found in God.

When you have a wife that you need to win her love and attention, love her unconditional and let that unconditional love that springs from the your will to obey the command of God in your life as a husband compel you to pray for her. When you continue to pray and love her, it’s just a matter of time for her to become the virtuous woman that you seek in her, knowing that it’s not just your love that will change her life, but that it is God working in her and bringing about the changes you seek in her working through your love for her.

And so we round up this four part series on winning the attention and love of your spouse. By the special grace of God, the next post is something to look forward to. Until then, stay blessed.