Who is Your Wife to You

Hello graciously blessed children of the Lord, I am so very positive that we are all doing great to the glory of the Living God. I do hope you are having a very restful weekend. We all need that rest if we have to be truthful with ourselves. May the living God bless the works of our hands in Jesus name.

Quite a number of times I have spoken to wives who feel disdained and relegated to the bottom by their husbands. They are so bitter about the non-existence of any form of respect for their person from their husbands; the man they have invested their love in who now shows them no regard in any way. And I can tell you for free that this hurts very deep. If only the man knows who his wife really is to him, I believe he will esteem her more.

1 Peter 3:7

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

The major instruction from God to the man concerning his wife is to love her, be considerate as you live with her and respect her. Quite a handful of men have considered the fact that Peter referred to the wife as the weaker partner to mean that she is the brainless one that should be tossed around with no regard in any way for her self-esteem. It’s so bad that some men respect the women they see outside their home far above their own wives. They talk down on their wives as though she was picked up from the gutters. But unfortunately what they don’t know is that what they are doing is disdaining God’s favor for their lives and writing off the only helper that God has provided for them for the fulfillment of their destinies. So these men continue in life with many struggles and ignorantly still take out the frustration of their lives on their wives.

Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.

Proverbs 19:14

Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.

If we combine these two passages, what I am getting from it is that when God gives you a prudent wife, He gives you what is good; the fact that you have received a good gift (your wife) from the Lord means you have received God’s favor along with the good gift. So like I always say, your wife is the container in which the Lord has packages His favor for your life. That package is tender yet very delicate. She is so delicate that without her, who is God’s divine helper for your life, the fulfillment of your life’s destiny becomes a struggle.

Peter said you should be considerate with your wife and treat her with respect, so I would want us to take a look at what the dictionary defines respect to mean. Respect, according to the dictionary means: “esteem for or a sense of worth or excellence of person.” But the definition I love the most among the sixteen definitions that I found says “to hold in esteem or honor.” So what Peter is in essence telling the husbands is that “you should hold your wife in esteem and honor, though she is tender yet delicate because she is your partner in success in all your pursuit in life and if you don’t do this, you risk your prayers not been answered.” This is the interpretation that I will give to the Bible verse 1 Peter 3:7.

So after this revelation, I want to ask the men, “Who is your wife to you?” If she is still the glorified housemaid that you have subjected her to be in your life, then you are still not ready to enjoy the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Because your God given destiny helper is that woman you have so comfortably subjected to continuous humiliation such that she is unable to pour out the deposit of God’s treasure for your life that has been divinely packaged in her for you by God.

The times are hard and there should be no room to entertain ignorance in our lives. If you do not know the reason why your struggle is so tough and life seem to be unfair to you, this could be one of the reasons. If you don’t treat the wife of your youth right God is not interested in you, your prayers or even your sacrifices (Malachi 2:13-14). From today as a husband desiring the intervention of God in your life, start by treating your wife right; love her, respect her and ensure her all round joy. Pray fervently and see if your prayers will not be like a sweet smelling aroma in the presence of God. May the Lord bless our homes.