What is Most Important to You in Marriage? Love, Trust, Time or Sex (3)

At Christmas time we often say that Jesus is the reason for the season, but I just read on my friend’s wall that it was because of you and I that Jesus came to the world, if there was no sin in the world, then there will be no reason for Christ to come and die. So according to her, you and I are the reason for the season and I totally agree with her. But the important thing is that we make the death of Jesus count for good in our lives. Let the purpose of Christ coming into this world and then dying for our sins not be in vain. You are the reason for the season so make the most of it and make Jesus proud.

So we continue on the discussion on what should be the most important element in your marriage; should it be love, trust, time or sex? So far we have discussed the issue of love and trust, so in today’s post, we will be discussing the role of time in marriage. Now time as stated here refers to the attention that a man ought to give his wife and the attention that a wife ought to give her husband. What does the Bible say about this, and how should we as married couples handle the issue of attention to one another.

Ephesians 5:28-29

So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

Ephesians 5:22

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

The closest I have been able to get to in my Bible research on the issue of time/attention in marriage is what I have found in the passages above. If a man knows how to take care of himself and give himself adequate attention such that he takes time to eat, care for his body and nourishes his body then in same manner as he does his own body so also should he do for his wife. And for the wife, the Bible says she should submit to her husband as to the Lord, if only the godly wives can give as much attention to their husbands as they give to the things of God. So you understand now that it’s not really right for a wife to abandon her husband in the name of church activities unless you have your husband’s permission and consent to do what you are doing.

Marriage is an investment like a lot of other things we invest in. What you sow into our marriage is what you reap from your marriage. If you require the attention, love and care of your spouse, then you sow attention, love and care into that marriage. The more you sow, the more you reap from it, and the joy that accrues to you is boundless. When you sow right, you surely will reap right.

Now we have dealt with three out of four of the elements in consideration for a happy marriage. So which is most important to you in all of these elements? Is it love, trust, time and sex? Whichever one is most important to you is the one you need to give the most.

So we will be looking at the last element in our next and arrive at a conclusion. May the Lord our marriages in Jesus precious name.