Hello people, it’s another beautiful morning and another special grace made available to work through today. Aren’t we just blessed to be counted among the living today, then even more blessed to be well and in good health, and a lot more blessed to have a place to rest our heads at night and much more blessed to have something to eat and a cloth to shield and cover our bodies and I can just go on and on counting how blessed we are despite the many problems we think we have. So for me, I will be among those who will give God quality praise this morning and every other morning that I am privileged to be alive. Not that I don’t have concerns in my life but that I have learned to appreciate God for the things I consider little even though these are things some others may long so dearly for and then show that I am faithful with little and ready for bigger blessings. I think this is a good way to go. What do you think?
Ephesians 6:12 (NKJV)
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against authorities, against powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.
Last Sunday my pastor preached a message that really got my head spinning; the message explained in plain terms a lot of things in my life. He didn’t give the message a title, I suppose it was a series of messages of which I was not in Church when he started the series, but the summary of his message was that as a child of God, as long as you are a follower of Christ you are in a warfare. You are constantly at war against the principles of idles of this world. The Bible said though we are in the world, but we are not of the world.
This message has ignited a revelation in me about our marriage. It is important that we realize that our destinies and your marriages are two aspects of our lives that need each other for sustenance and fulfillment. When your marriage is stable and working well, the fulfillment of your destiny is easily attainable. A bad marriage slows down one’s growth; when you have problems in your marriage, your entire life is up-side-down. When in a bad marriage, your ability to focus for growth is greatly impaired. So a successful marriage is a catalyst for destiny growth.
But one thing that we need to understand is that the devil who is the prince of the world does not want your destiny to grow; he is not interested in your legitimate successful life. He is not interested in the growth destiny; as a matter of fact, he will work effortless to ensure that your destiny is as stagnant as a still and smelling water and you will begin to run from pillar to post seeking help where you don’t have any business going to.
Because the devil is out to destroy your destiny, he attacks your marriage. So your spouse makes a mistake or acts wrongly, and the devil comes and then sits in your head telling you that the sin of your spouse is unforgivable; you get so consumed feeling betrayed and hurt by your spouse that you don’t have the energy and focus to fight the enemy of your destiny. You are busy fighting your spouse rather than waging war against the devil whose mission is to destroy your destiny.
Paul said our struggle is not against flesh and blood but against the powers of this dark world and against spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realm; what you need to understand is that your spouse is not the problem; he/she is as much under attack as you are. The war is not a war of the wife against her husband or the husband against the wife, but it is a war of the husband and the wife against the enemy of their destinies which is the devil.
The tactics of the devil is that he ruffles the nest between you and your spouse, and while you are busy being at each other’s throat, he steals that which belongs to you, messes up your lives and destinies and then mocks both of you at your foolishness and then goes ahead to show contempt at God for how foolish the so-called children of God can really be.
One beautiful gift that God has blessed us with is the power of choice; you have the power within you to choose to forgive any wrong your spouse has done to you or to hold on to do the wrong and act on it. In the system of the world to be unforgiving is so allowed, to hit back when someone hits you is so natural, but in the God’s Kingdom where we belong it is different, it is the other way round; it is actually wrong not to forgive; unforgiving is not allowed. You are mandated to forgive all the wrongs done against you in order to show yourself approved as a child of God (Matthew 5:43-48). So if you are to forgive your enemies and pray for those who hate you, then what should be the case if your spouse does you wrong?
These are the truth that the devil just would not want you to see. Your battle is not with your spouse. God said you are no longer two but one in flesh and spirit. What we see are two people, but what God sees is one person in two bodies. When you fight against your spouse rather than fight with your spouse against the true enemy of life, what you are doing is using your own hands to shred your destiny into pieces and the devil enjoys seeing you do that, while you break God’s heart in the process.
Your marriage is a battlefield and the warriors are you and your spouse as a unified one entity against the devil. It is your responsibility to protect your territory against the inversion of the enemy. Don’t let uncontrolled emotions give room for the inversion of the enemy into your territory, if you do, you will be robbed clean and left empty. May the Lord bless our homes in Jesus name.